What is Colon Cancer
Colorectal cancer, also called colon cancer or bowel cancer, includes cancerous growths in the colon, rectum and appendix. It is the third most common form of cancer and the second...
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My sister in law was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer that has metasized to lungs and liver last Friday. . . a treatment plan is being developed and we will be advised what that will be next Tuesday. . .a whole week of what if's! what is the best way I can support what she will be going through in the days ahead. Any thoughts on what is ahead for our family? Thanks for any information you share.
Posted on 09/22/09, 08:09 am |
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Hey JW;
I have Stage IV colon cancer. I had 2 major surgeries, a colon resection (May 2009) and then one month later a liver resection. As of today I've had 6 chemotherapy treatments. As you'll see by reading the comments of others on this website, everyone is affected differently, some can come through all this without much trouble and still others can't get through it at all. You'll have to gage your response and help for your sister-in-law based on how she reacts to everything. Just be there for her, for your brother, for her children, they'll all need someone to talk to. Tell her about his site and don't be afraid to ask anything of anyone here. Good luck to you and to your sister-in-law. I'll keep you both in my prayers. John 
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Thanks John.
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JW,
The waiting game is a difficult dance. I myself am in a holding pattern. I have no easy answers for you, it is, no doubt a difficult time for your family. This group has been an amazing source of hope and I encourage you and your sister to visit often. Understand that you are not alone and there are truly amazing stories of hope and success. You and your family are in my meditations.
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Just make sure you listen. When I found out I had someone trying to be so positive it negated the reality of what I was facing and that didn't help me at all at that time. Let her feel her feelings and listen. Of course, don't let her stay in a negative state for a long time. But she may want to talk about her fears, anxiety, the future, the 'why me', 'what did I do to bring this on?', etc. You seeking out this group is so extremely loving and supportive of her. I bet she will appreciate knowing this.
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