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I am a freshman at a university and i don't know if this is where im supposed to be anymore. I was so ready to get away from home and experience something knew because im a pretty restless person and i love change and traveling and seeing/doing new things. so going to a large urban college seemed like a great thing to do. although i never really paid attention to the thought in the back of my mind saying "do i really want to go to school right now after i just spent 12 years unwillingly going?...and now im willingly going!"
so i went through the motions and i was excited to come i guess but then it just started going downhill. I dont do a lot of social activities. i stay in my room. i eat cause im bored. if i do go out im by myself and i usually go out driving somewhere. i thought it was just the freshman funk but im pretty sure its more than that. i dont like being in a daily routine like this and i feel like i could be doing something more right now. i want to travel so badly and experience new things and do something that i love. but school i just am not loving and my parents and friends can tell im unhappy and not myself. and i cant talk about this with out crying. i just hate the school part of college. which sound ridiculous but i like the living on my own and exploring..just not the school work. and whenever i have good days i like being here and enjoy it! but the thing is i have way more bad days than good. i can withdraw and go home and try and go back another time i understand that. and i think it would be a good idea because this feeling has made my grades horrible. but im scared if i go home i will get stuck in a rut and just be working and in a daily routine again. i just don't know what to do! should i leave now or finish the semester? or finish the year? i just want to be happy and myself again. sorry if this is jumbled and doesnt make sense. Posted on 10/26/09, 04:10 pm |
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Hi twisted times,
MANY HUGS to you. :D You're college experience sounded just like mine when I first started school, so I know exactly how you feel, especially about the homework. To be honest, no one can really tell you whether you should stay or leave as that decision is really up to you both financially and emotionally since your happiness is what really matters most. What really helped me get through my tough time was making a list of pro and cons for both working and one for school. Than I asked myself what would make me truly happy and then I took the steps to achieve my happiness For example, for me cutting back on school and going part-time and having a job part-time while in school really helped me. I was in school only a couple of days a week, worked only a couple of days of week since school was farther from work. It was really tight financially since it cut my financial aid in half and I still had homework, but overall I was much happier, mainly since I had more time for myself and was less overwhelmed all the time. Therefore, if the large urban university you're attending now isn't a good fit, is there a smaller school or even a community college you can go to next semester? Most of the community colleges in my area have smaller class sizes and allow for more individual attention compared to larger schools. Also, would going part-time be a better fit than full-time? Lastly, I highly recommend that you talk to your parents about how you are feeling since they love and care about you. Besides if you cry, they could always hand you a tissue. :D As for when to transfer or leave school I highly recommend speaking w/ an academic adviser about your options if you decide to withdrawal. The school I attended had a few strict deadlines about when the last day of the semester a student could drop a course(s) or withdraw w/o affecting their GPA. If you ever decide to transfer schools or withdrawal this late in the semester, you might have to make-up any classes that are WP or WF (withdrawl fail/pass) on your transcripts depending on the school you transfer too. Not to mention that for some schools a WF on a transcript is calculated as an "F" and can cause an Academic Probation status which is no fun to deal w/ if you are wanting to transfer. Well, good luck with whatever decision you choose to make. I know its tough, but try to hang in there :D 
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