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Ok, so if you've read any of my posts recently you know I'm a freshman in college and I've felt really depressed and lonely. Anyway, there are some fairly nice girls on my floor and I had lunch and dinner with them (8 of us in all) today. I have their numbers and such, so I'd say we are acquaintances. Anyway, it makes it so much harder. I feel so superficial and fake and left out. Like everyone likes the others more then me. Obviously, having friends without Eating disorders makes behaviors harder to do (good, but also bad for stress). I am no longer the "crazy" one. Only one person here knows my past and we are both trying to be someone else. Thing is; I don't know how to not be the crazy one- the cutter, the anorexic, the emo...etc...I feel really lost right now. I have been going to different club type things; I feel empty. I've also been sleeping a lot. I guess it can all be depression......
Posted on 09/03/09, 09:09 pm |
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Hi Rowyn,
From reading your post above it doesn't sound like your being superficial, it reads to me that letting your guard down and trusting people is very hard for you.. I also don't think you're the crazy one either. I just think that you need a trusted adult like a counselor to confide in and that can help you over come how you feel emotionally. Not sure what an emo is, but I'm pretty sure that your school might offer different resources that could help you over come your feelings of depression and loneliness. I know its not easy but try to hang in there. Good Luck :D 
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I am sitting here, a freshman in college struggling with an eating disorder, and I feel SO ALONE.
I wish I had someone to talk to about it. I wish I at least had a friend. I wish I didnt have to keep pretending. I dont know, I just feel like this is so hard.
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hi,
sweetie you are not crazy.number 1! Sometimes people feel that is the only way they have any type of control is to act in behaviors such as cutting, etc. I kno it might be hard because there were times where i have tried to commit suicide and didnt want to live anymore. But i think your best option is to confide in someone who you trust. if you feel like you can trust this other, such as the girl who knows your past. You both can be each others support or even go to counseling. Please dont be shy or feel like you cant. everyone needs counseling. I hope everything works out for you. good luck
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thanks, my friend is trying to move on, so we can't really talk about that stuff. I hope it works out to. I'm starting to isolate because of the eating disorder so me acquaintances are disappearing to :/
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If it makes you feel any better, I'm in my 3rd year at college, and I commute and have made no good friends there. Just focus on your studies, and working and being involved. Staying busy is a great way to fight loneliness and not having friends. Also see a therapist if you aren't already. I don't know how much this helps, but just know that you aren't alone. I honestly can't wait for college to be over.
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you know big change is never easy, we are so use to our roles in what use to be it difficult learning a new way of life, but just dont give yourself a hard time, you have made a good first step of meeting with others, getting there numbers, try stay positive, give them a ring a do more stuff maybe! you may end up forming a close bond where you can talk to someone in confidence so they have more of an understanding of who you are, the events we live through makes us who we are and bad things makes us stronger people, i remember when i started uni and i wanted to be this totally different person i ended up hating myself and not accepting who i was and loving me for who i am, if your an emo be a proud emo! i hope you can overcome your feelings of depression with a positive outlook x good luck
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