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`I am having SUCH a hard time finding people at my college that are like me. I tend to be better friends with my teachers than my fellow classmates. I've had a lot of trauma in my life which has made me a lot more mature than your average college student. I tend to get along with people around 5-10 years older than me.
I try to make friends and I'm a really friendly person - but I feel like no matter who I meet I'm "meeting" the same person. They go to school and don't really care about it, and their only motivation is getting to the weekend and drinking and doing drugs until they pass out... For someone who rarely drinks, doesn't do drugs, don't have sex - there's nothing we have in common. I would rather wake up early and see the sunrise on the beach than stay out clubbing until the morning breaks... Does anyone else have this really contradicting problem? And is there any advice for dealing with it? I'm having such a hard time with it. Each Semester I feel more and more alone. Posted on 06/15/09, 11:06 am |
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I am kinda the same way. it feels like 99% of the school cares more about partying and I'm in the 1%. lucky for me, I found people to get along with and am currently dating a guy who is the same way. its hard, but you learn to be happy independently to pass time or just have friends on the surface who you're not best friends with. keep your eyes opened and soon you'll have other people like yourself 
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ive been at uni for 4 years and i would say i can count on one hand how many student friends i have, i have alot more friends who are in the local area, and im ok with that, im not saying i dont drink and all that, but you know you could maybe venture out to see what clubs you would be interested in and meet people there, im sure u will find someone u will click with soon
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Yes! I am exactly the same. But I think joining a club is a good idea :) Also I volunteer and I really get on with the people I volunteer with. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to put partying before uni so dont feel like your weird :) We should be friends on here xox
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Thank you all so much!! This was such a great response :]
Helpless924, I'm so glad you found some people that you get along with and someone to date! Thanks for the encouragement :] I think it's a little harder being a small university but I'm sure it will get better! Firespinner, You're so right! I would much rather have older friends in the area (except I don't really live in a good area). I was thinking about trying to find friends in surrounding areas - but it's a little intimidating :D thanks for the great idea of joining clubs! Anna, volunteering is a great idea! I think I'm going to start next week. Where do you volunteer? I thought of volunteering at the Humane Society, but I can't really think - where are other places you can volunteer? Thanks for making me feel less alone :D ~Radiance
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join as many clubs through your school as you can. join the ones in your major and all the ones you could possibly be interested in. I go a small university as well, and you'd be surprised that its actually easier than you think to find people like yourself. you may have to do some searching, but once you find one person, more than likely they have friends like you as well =)
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I volunteer as a telephone counselling and youth mentor. Our university doesnt really have clubs :( But finding anything in your community that interests you is good! You'll find that not many young people volunteer but some of my favourite volunteer friends are the oldest ones there, they are just so cute lol
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I know exactly what you all mean. I don't really drink much and I'm serious about school. I sit in class and listen to people practically bragging about how they got "soo wasted" the night before. And how they just didn't do the reading or work, so can they copy mine? I'm by no means a perfect person, but I feel like this is college, it is your choice to be here, so take it seriously. Yeah, I got in tons of trouble in high school and stuff, but I've buckled down and most people just think I'm too straight.
I agree with the idea of joining clubs and volunteering. That has been where I've met most of the people I truly do get along with.
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I know how you feel! My first year of college SUCKED, partially do to this reason. Now though, I'm waaay too busy with studying, and also working part time, to really care too much. I have met a couple friends through my part time job, and I have my bff I grew up with, but aside from that I'm alone. I just keep busy, though, and focus on my education.
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nope after my second semester in college i relized that the students just where imature and ignorant.. but working for the college i attend has helped with that i meet alot of teachers and people to fill in the gap plus its a bonus not to know a lot of people you can actually get work done and not get distracted
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I agree, the school I went to was the same way radiance. It just got so annoying year after year dealing w/ the same immaturity
I agree w/ the others that volunteering or having a part-time job is a good outlet, not only for making friends but especially since you are being productive in school you might need a letter of recommendation or job reference and the volunteers you surround yourself with or part-time job you acquire will surely remember your strong-work ethic and dedication. .
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