Codependency Support Group

This is an excerpt from an article I read. It explained very clearly and quite phenomenally to me how and why I attract the same type of man.

http://unemotionalside.tripod.com/i...

Emotionally we're drawn to people who feel familiar on an energetic level. That is, people who, on an emotional vibrational level, resonate with us as being familiar. It feels to us as if we have a strong connection to those people. In other words, we have an inner radar system that causes us to be attracted to people who resonate vibrationally in a way that's familiar on an emotionally intimate level.

We're attracted to people whose inner emotional dynamic is similar to our most powerful and earliest experience of emotional intimacy and love - our parents.

No matter how much we're making an effort on a conscious level to not pick anyone like our parents, energetically we feel a strong attraction to people whose inner emotional dynamic is similar to our first experience of love.

It was very important for me to get aware of the reality that if I met someone who felt like my soul mate, I'd better watch out. Those are exactly the people who will fit my patterns - recreate my wounding.

It was very important for me to recognize the power of this type of attraction. And also to realize, that on a Spiritual level, these people were teachers who were in my life to help me get in touch w/my childhood wounds.

It was vital for me to start being aware that if I met someone who felt like my soul mate it didn't mean we were going to live happily ever after.

What it meant was that I was being given another wonderful and painful, opportunity for growth.

Becoming conscious of these emotional energetic dynamics was a very important part of owning my power. My power to make choices, to accept consequences, to take responsibility for my choices and consequences and to not buy into the belief that I was being victimized by the other person, or my own defectiveness.