Codependency Support Group

this is going to be hard but tell him you love him too much to see him self destruct again. until he gets help tell him you wil not give him money or cigarettes or take care of other aspects of his life. this will help him more :) good luck

...STOP...

As soon as I realized what I was doing (being codependent), I started feeling better. I don't HAVE to do these things for him. He chose to walk away, not me. Why am I getting the worst end of the deal? I set boundaries with him. I told him the only time I would see him is when he wants to see me because he misses me, wants to spend time with me, etc. I don't want him to see me just because he wants something. I told him as soon as I feel like the situation is becoming manipulative, I will ask him to leave. I'm a smart woman. I just fell for a guy that had been an addict before. I didn't think he would get into it again, but the temptation will always be there for him. I have to remember that. Thankfully we don't have a mortgage, kids, or anything like that. I need to be strong for ME. I was driving myself crazy with this unhealthy concern for his well-being. I can't stop what he is doing but I can stop what I am doing. I will not withhold love from him, but I will withhold material items and money. He got himself into this, he's the only one that can get himself out.