Cocaine Addiction & Recovery Support Group

Please make him seek professional help ASAP

mentaladdict i dont know how i can make him get help..he seems to think its ok and that its just recreational but i know better..deep down i think he knows better too but he doesnt want to admit it..im so torn in this because i am an addict too and the last thing i want to do is to even be around it..i didnt want to jump down his throat because i know that would make him shut down..im just in prayer over it and hope the God of my understanding gives me the right words that will make him seek help on his own..right now thats all i can do..

As i am not an addict i am the last person who can advise you but you give so much sound advice on DS & if this post was from someone else i wonder what advice you would give them?
You know there is very little you can do unless he wants help so i think your advice would be to let go so he can find his own way.
As you are well into your recovery & doing so well i would be worried him still using would put you in a dangerous position.
It is heartbreaking watching someone you love destroy their lives through drugs but as i am sure you would tell anyone else, you must detach & look after yourself especially when you are so far into your own recovery.
Best wishes.

Louise

HE WILL HAVE YOU USING BEFORE YOU GET HIM CLEAN, DO NOT KID YOURSELF. THE DISEASE IS MORE POWERFUL THAN THE TWO OF YOU.

Hi Lisa...It saddens me to see you going through this dilemma, but I feel you did very well maintaining your recovery while in the midst of your partners active addiction, you should be commended for your strength and courage...I am so proud of you and your willpower to stay clean...Maybe leading by example as you are doing and staying clean no matter what the situation, circumstances or person...may... give your partner the reason and strength to seek for himself...I pray that you don't have to suffer too long with this dilemma...Be Strong...Let Go and Let God (of your understanding)...Much Love and Respect...Jah

Hi Lisa I just want to thank You for Your addvice and tell You that I too am Proud of You but I do feel Like connecicut be very Careful that you don't get pulled back in trying to help him there is only so much you can do Be safe My Friend again Thank You for Your hand in support we need to be here for each other!! Dan

louise,connecicut,jah,and dan ..thank you all for ur support..i know this is too much of a dangerous situation for me..i've been praying on it and my feeling is to just let go and let God no matter how my heart wanting to help ..this is the hardest thing i've had to bare so far because he had become part of my dreams for the future ..but using my brain instead of my heart i know that there will be no future if he continues to use ..i know the downward spiral.. i know its ugly head.. the pain ,suffering and anguish u go threw i cant bare to see it or feel it in my life anymore..when i shut that door and surrendered that was it for me.. i was done ..and am done with it...i talked to him yesterday and he says hes not using and that he doesnt want to but my trust is broken ..i dont know how i could ever trust that hes not after this..i really dont want the risk.. nothing is worth that kind of chance ..i dont know how im going to tell him but i have to ..and i just know whats to follow the lies and promises i been there done that ..i now feel like those that i let down and put threw all that crap..it is truly the worst side to watch someones dimise and theres NOTHING u can do..such a helpless feeling..its hard though to let go of someone i love ..he has such a good heart thats why mine feels like its breaking knowing i have to do this..but i dont know what else i can do in this situation..

Honey I was once told by some wise people, that things are not always what they seem. Maybe the person you love so dear has to take this path to find freedom. Pray, Pray, and then Pray again.

Connecticut

and by the way mentaladdic you can not make anyone do anything. suggestions maybe considered.

connecicut,u are a very wise person and have a very strong recovery .. ur advice i took to heart a few days ago when i decided to end this relationship and take the wait and see approach with prayer..i kept hearing ur words in my head he'd have me using b4 i'd get him clean and it clarified what i knew deep down to be the truth about dealing with someone using..fact is i cant..it was very,very hard on me not to this weekend and theres no way either of us is stronger than it..i just have more tools and i had to use just about everyone of them to maintain threw it..ur words today have brought me a little bit of peace about this and i thank you so much for that..i trust in the God of my understanding and there are reasons for everything sometimes this can escape me when it looks bad or feels bad at the time..im so hoping he will surrender and stop this tormenting of himself but it may be part of his journey to that..he'd been there so much 4 me in my recovery we talked all the time on the phone my first year of recovery and he encouraged me so much when i was on the brinks of relapse he saved me from myself a many a day thats why its so hard right now..we had made this plan of getting our lives together and growing old together and been working that plan the 2 years we've been apart..he finally got the job of anyones dreams and moved up here ..everything looked so brite..this was so out of the blue..im just taken aback..i just dont want to abandon him completely but im not seeing him this weekend ..i got a bunch of numbers from men at my n/a meetings and praying when he calls he'll take and use them..other than that im just trying to stay in one peace.