Cleft Lip / Palate Support Group

I AM A 30 YR OLD GIRL..OPPS WOMAN!!
I WAS BORN WITH A CLEFT LIP AND PALATE, I HAD A MIXED TIME GROWING UP. MY MOTHER AND FATHER WERE BRILLIANT, THEY TREATED ME LIKE THEY WOULD ANY OTHER CHILD, NEVER LET ME THINK THAT MY LIP/PALATE WOULD HOLD ME BACK I HAVE 4 OLDER BROTHERS WHO LOVED AND 'SHOWED ME OFF' TO EVERYONE THEY COULD AS THEY WERE SO EXCITED TO HAVE A BABY SISTER !!!. HOWEVER KIDS AS ALWAYS WERE CRUEL!
I WAS BROUGHT UP TO KEEP MY HEAD HELD HIGH AT ALL TIMES, NEVER TO HIDE MY FACE, AND TO BELIEVE I COULD BE OR DO ANYTHING THAT I WANTED!!.
NOW I'M NOT SAYING THAT THIS WAS EASY..FAR FROM IT. SOME TIMES I FELT LIKE GIVING UP AND THAT NOBODY IN THE WORLD LIKED ME AND THAT THERE WAS NO CHANCE IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD EVER HAVE A 'NORMAL LIFE' FOR EG GET A PARTNER!!.
I DID GO THROUGH A BAD TIME BETWEEN 17-20 YRS (NOT THAT I REALISED IT AT THE TIME) A LOT OF DRINKING ETC(I'M IRISH SO IT WASN'T NOTICED THAT MUCH LOL).
HOWEVER I DID GO TO COLLEGE, GOT ENGAGED, (WHICH ENDED, BY ME!. )
I THEN MOVED TO LANZAROTE TO LIVE, ON MY OWN!! NOW I'M SURE THAT WOULD BE HARD FOR ANYONE LET ALONE SOME ONE WHO WAS AS SELF CONCIOUS AS I WAS.
WHILE THERE I MET TAM, A WONDERFUL GUY FROM SCOTLAND AFTER 6 MONTHS I MOVED TO SCOTLAND TO BE WITH HIM. THT WAS 8 YRS AGO AND WE HAVE NOW BEEN HAPPILY MARRIED FOR NEARLY 5 YRS AND HE HAS CONTINUED TO BUILD MY CONFIDANCE (SOMETIMES A BIT TOO MUCH LOL).

SO REALLY WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY IS WHO EVER IT IS THAT YOU KNOW WITH A CLEFT LIP/PALET, EVERYDAY THAT THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGANT, AND CAN DO OR BE ANYTHYING THAT THEY WANT
THEY WILL PROBABLY NOT BELIEVE YOU NOW, BUT IN TIME AS I DID THEY WILL ,
AND REMEMBER AS I HAVE DONE ONLY TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GOOD, POSITIVE PEOPLE, THERE ARE ENOUGH PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO YOU DON'T KNOW WHO ARE WILLING TO PUT YOU DOWN AND MAKE YOU FEEL SMALL, SO WHY WOULD YOU INVITE THEM TO BE IN YOUR LIFE??
BE POSTIVE, AND POSITIVE THINGS WILL HAPPEN.
Posted on 09/07/09, 12:09 pm