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Is A Matter Of Respect........
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Well, I had to write this one.....
You know, all of the people that come here to the CP section of DS come here to get support and/or support others that are in chronic and/or intractable pain. We come here because we consider this place a safe place were we can come and get advice, and talk to others about what is going on with us. We do not come here to get more stress, and that is exactly what has been happening here lately. One of my online friends just send me a note telling me that she was thinking of withdrawing from the group, because of the nasty posts that she has been seeing here lately, and I think that we all know which ones those are! And believe me, I agree with her! Any time that someone brings up a controversial topic into these boards like insurance reform, Marijuana usage, etc. most people do not know how to give their opinions without hurting others feelings! I understand how passionate our believes are when it comes to Health Care reform, MJ usage for CP, etc.... But, can we all respect each others opinions without insulting one another? Is there a way that we can debate without insulting one another? I sure hope so! Then we had a young man that did a post about his insurance company and LTD, and all this person was looking for was help and advice, NOTHING ELSE!! Just help and a few opinions. Obviously that got out of hand too! I understand that there a lot us here that have experience in insurance, medical, counseling, Government, etc.... But we need to make sure that when we answer someone else's post, we do it with respect. There is absolutely no reason to get nasty with each other! There is no reason that we need to make others feel "less than" or we need to say "you are wrong!!! because I have worked on this and that and this is the way it gets done!" Well.... maybe that is the way it gets done in your State or in your Country, and that is fine, but gosh! DON'T insult the other person because they didn't agree with your opinion! That is wrong, wrong, wrong!!!! That person was just trying to help the poster with her/his opinion, and there is no necessity for been nasty! Opinions are just that.......OPINIONS, they are not Gospel or the truth! They are just opinions. I guess what I am trying to say here is; can we be nicer to each other? Can we respect one another? Can we show some respect to the other members here, by not making this forum into a "battle ground" for your personal opinions? It would be a nicer and better place if we could all do that...... Don't you think???? Let's be kinder with one another! We are all in this boat together, and we do not need to be disrespectful! And like my Grandma used to say.... "If the shoe fits, wear it!" Peace, Tipper Posted on 11/07/09, 04:11 pm |
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Thanks Tipper.
I hope that we can all learn a lesson from the lack of respect on the boards lately. It can be difficult for some to endure and even more difficult for others to ignore. Once I again, I apologize to other members who read my post in response to someone who attacked my character simply because they disagreed with my opinion. But I will not be a pushover for people who disrespect others and do not take those little words under this box to heart. (In adding this Comment, I ____, do promise to be nice.) I was aggressive in my defense because it was necessary, but I do not wish any additional stress for myself or any other DS member. I thank you all who have supported me and given me advice at some of my darkest hours. I don't know what I would have done without you. I love my DS family!! Hugs to all. 
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You think this one is bad you should see what people reply in the depression posts!! If any place where people need compassion and understanding. Telling people that they just want attetion that is why they want to committ suicide.
I think it is disgusting in any group to berate people and if you have to do that to people to feel in control then maybe they need to go somewhere where you can be a leader of a group so you can tell others what to do. I had a person not like something I posted on the CFS site and she went to all my other groups telling everyone that I was harrassing her and she felt threatened and was afraid she had to leave D.S. That was just inmature. Luckily everyone knew me well enough to know that I did not do that and rallied around me. I agree if you cannot handle reading peoples opinion than maybe you need not belong to such groups that are built on support and opinion.
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Hi Tipper!
I havent posted or been on much lately, but I couldnt help but notice this post, and I just wanted to say how admirable I am to see that someone stepped up for the rest of the people on here. You are a good soul. Respect is what I thought this site was all about. I see some people dont quite understand the "rules" of common sense yet? I hope we are all able to learn something from this. As for opinions...you know what they say about them!! (((HUGS))) Nadine
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Slrow, I agree that the depression group is the worst. It seems like a bunch of children in there playing games. That is why I sometimes post off topic requests here because this is the only group I trust to get a serious answer from and true support.
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What a shame........
Is a shame that the depression thread is worst than this one! What is wrong with that???? I think that we need to look at ourselves before we typed something that is going to hurt others. Anything 4 or 5 letter word, needs to be avoided! No one should call anyone names, is wrong! I left elementary school many years ago!!! Some of these posts are getting as bad as the little notes that girls and boys age 11 and 12 used to pass around in Mrs. Rodriquez's class in 6th grade!! Enough! If you are having a bad day, if you are in too much pain or whatever, and you think that you are going to hurt someones feelings by posting; turn off the puter, take your medications and rest! Come back and post when you feel better and your emotions are in check. And if you have something to discuss with someone, do it via PM! Why ruin someone else's post with your personal agenda? Why hijack someone else's post to insult a member that hurt your feelings??? Do it via PM! If you want to insult someone and called them a B, a FB or whatever, do it via PM! Don't ruin a post for someone else! It is common sense........
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Here here tipper..I think a private message is the best route to go. If you feel strongly about something you should send it in a private message rather then embarass the person or make them feel like garbage. Where has the support gone on here? It's turned into a blood bath. I feel like I can't say anything to anyone without them feeling there being "attacked". I just hope we can pull ourselves up and move on. Good topic Tipper : )
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