Children Of Divorced Parents Support Group

I kind know where you are coming from my whole life even before my dad left I felt like he didn't want me and he didn't love me. I still do feel that way but I am trying to work through it because I know these feels might never go away but I know that I wasn't a mistake because my mom wanted me more than anything and still does. I know that somewhere my dad does love me and wants me he just has a hard way of showing it.

aww im sorry to hear about that! but i feel the exact same way. i know my dad somewere deep down loves me. but i wish hed show it more.

The reality is that parents sometimes pick their likes, they don't love children all the same. It is not fair, but bonding with children is like a friendship, is there or not there. So, if your father is a primitive man, he looks after what is convenient to him. Has a relationship that suits his needs. Of course you want to believe deep down there is love. But let me tell you something love is or there isn't. Love is shown, love is good, so you wouldn't feel like this if there was love. I don't think he really loves your brothers either, just happen to be convenient to him, he loves himself or nobody. People like that love at the surface. You want to check how much he loves you? Test him.
Tell him he needs to donate a kidney for you. Tell him to take you to the ball. Fuss over not seeing you. Tell him what your needs are and if he doesn't met them there is your answer. Sometimes stupid man think you don't need them, so they can stay 4 months no calls, because they think you don't want them. They could check, but rather assume. So, go and get your truth, your answer, so you know where you are standing with parents, sibilings and all.

Yes, he loves you. I'm pretty sure he misses you and somehow thinks in his head that you don't want to see him, he should be the one calling you but sometime we act like children, sometimes I still feel like a child because life is confusing and harder as you get older. You think its hard now, it gets harder, but its okay for you to be the adult and step up and just call out of the blue. I bet you, he's relieved and feel like the most sucky dad to you. I continue to feel guilty everyday because I decided to get a divorce for just being totally unhappy and other stuff I really don't want my children to hate there father for because he has always been a great dad, but I often wonder what can I do to make sure my children stay happy through it. What can I tell them to know its not their fault and we really do love them more than life itself.

I feel like parents love us, but they don't always do what is in our best interests. We all have different ways of expressing love. Parents are just regular people who have their own desires, needs, flaws, and limits. Maybe they have their own issues and haven't been able to manage all their responsibilties effectively. Like the other comment said "convience" is key. My dad spends a lot of time with my stepsiblings and its because my stepmom makes the plans in their relationship. It's convienet for him to go along with her plans instead of making his own. I talked to my dad about wanting him to spend more time with me, but he never did. So I felt not good enough and rejected, because I didn't know why he didn't make the effort to spend time with me. After dating a single father I realized first hand that the type of person a father is and what their priorities are affects how good of a parent they can be. If your dad has different priorities or has trouble taking care of themself then he is incapable of taking care of you. Try talking to your dad and ask him to get together with you more regularly. If your stepmom makes most of the arrangements then she can help him get together for you. Your dad is probably focused elsewhere and you need to figure out how the two of you can get together. It's like making a new friend and you have to figure out when they are available and what common thing you can do together. So if he's too focused elsewhere then he's incapable of giving you the attention you need, but always suggest another day to get together when someone says they are busy.