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who "failed" you
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just curious to see here...
which parent "failed" you?
what was their failure?

i grew up with parents that never lived together as far back as i can remember. my "dad" would disappear for months and nobody knew where the hell he was. then he would just drop by without notice for a few days, cause drama, then leave again.

my dad failed to be a good husband to my mom
failed to be a good father to me and my 3 bros
he failed the whole marriage and family duties
he never cared about us or what happened to us
he also failed to be faithful. but every freakin time, my mom took him back
he brought STDs back to my mom
Posted on 08/09/09, 10:08 pm
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Reply #1 - 08/09/09  11:52pm
" my father failed me.
My father was never home, he'd walk me to school once in a while or drop by for dinner and then he'd be off to "work."
When I was 9 or 10 he was caught cheating with an 18 year old, it wasn't the first or last time before their divorce years later.
He abused my mother physically and me, mentally and emotionally.
My dad left and was never around except to ask me to give him money and when he promised to be "faithful" when getting back together with my mom he gave me two little brother's before leaving again. He even told me he wished he hadn't had them.
He never pays child support but expects me to hang out with him and be his best friend although he already told me once that he disowned me and wish I wasn't his child either. "
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Reply #2 - 08/10/09  8:18am
" they both failed me.

my father failed to be around.
he failed to choose his wife over his parents.
he doesn't believe in child support.
he failed to tell us about his fiance,
until we were to be bridesmaids for a bitch.
he still fails, even now, for trying to buy my love.

my mother fails to get herself help,
so she takes it out on us,
and says the cruelest things.
she puts me in the middle,
and i can't take it.

sometimes, i can't stand either of them. "
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Reply #3 - 08/10/09  9:28pm
" man that sucks... i really wish parents would wake up and realize the responsibility of having KIDS!

i wish they could take some freakin classes or something, or maybe have someone slap em around and knock some sense into em.

i haven't seen my dad since 96. he hasn't called me since 2004 and that was only to ask me retarded questions, yell at me, and then ask to speak to my mother.

he disowned me too, years ago. but i never cared. his loss not mine. "
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Reply #4 - 08/11/09  12:43am
" i'd have to agree with that bluesun. I do feel that it's his loss and not mine, although I've stopped believing that one day he'll realize what he let go of. c'est la vie right?
oh, and forget the slapping...I'd head right for the shovel. Maybe hitting them over the head with a blunt object would set horrible parents straight. "
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Reply #5 - 08/11/09  3:15pm
" ha, ya'll are hilarious! "
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Reply #6 - 08/11/09  4:31pm
" hmm maybe you are right about the shovel thing lol "
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Reply #7 - 09/18/09  6:11am
" i always thought it was my mother that failed me, but when i told my father about my ed and he told me i was a disgrace to the family name and left me crying in a cafe in town.

it wan't till after that did i discover that he'd also abused my mother when she was preg with my little bro, he kicked her in the stomach,

But my mother metal abused me growing up but i don't blame either of them, everything that has ever happened to me has made me stronger "
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Reply #8 - 09/21/09  1:19am
" My father failed me in so many ways.
He's a jerk.
He doesn't believe that anyone under the age of 30 can think for themselves
He trash talks my mother
He thinks that love is for sale and because he makes A LOT of money he can try and by us
He ruined my relationship with my grandmother (his mother) and a couple of my cousins as well.
He is emotionally abusive.
He likes to put on the happy family face but in reality nothing is okay.
He lies and cheats.
He pretends to pay child support but never gives my mom what she is due.
He likes to drive wedges between people. My older brother and I have a difficult relationship because of him.
He never keeps his promises.
He turned my sweet little brother into a mini him
He hates my older brother for no reason. When my brother and I moved out, I was the only one he tried to pursue a relationship with.
He's a self hating bigot.
He won't even aknowledge how big a role I played in the upbringing of my little brother.
And those are just the ones I'm willing to share "
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Reply #9 - 09/23/09  4:45pm
" My father fails me.
He choose drugs over us, his family.
Verbally abused, manipulated, lied to and stole from my mother.
Threatened to hurt me if my Mom called the police.
Postponed the divorce for as long as possible, while we barely survived.
Uses his visitation time with me to spite my mother.
Verbally, and sometimes even physically abuses me.
Invalidates every emotion I have, especially if it concerns him.
Would hand me over to his mom and sister while he watched TV.
Holds money over my mother's head as a threat, to get what he wants or to keep from loosing visitation .
Guilts or bribes me into seeing him.
Pays for drugs before child support.
Said I was a screw up in a public restaurant - in front of everyone.
Fails to see he hurts us, making up excuses and never apologizing.
Tells everybody else he does everything right, and has a great relationship with me. What a lie.
My father fails me by not being a parent, placing crack cocaine before his daughter.

My mother doesn't fail me - my mother just hurts me.
She takes out her emotions on me.
Screams whenever I get upset or start to cry.
Looses it with me for minor things, or no reason at all.
Asks me to tell her what's wrong, but can never stand the answer.
Bad talks herself in front of me, making me feel like crap.
Can't handle anything, so she leans on me for support.
Acts like a crying child on minute, and then expects to be treated as an adult soon after.
Swings from hating certain family members (for good reason) to defending them very quickly.
Takes no responsibility for her outbursts, always blaming it on life, my father, etc. "
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Reply #10 - 09/27/09  3:34pm
" My father failed me
He cheated
Said horrible things
Not it hurts he pretends to care
Like he didn't give a damn before
He takes away my county level swimming
My grade 7 ballet
All so he could have a large 3 storey house
And mum basically gets a shit hole

A sittuation which makes me cut "

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