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In Ohio, have 3 step-kids in Texas & we need help
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The older 2 haven't lived with their mom for 2 years. The oldest will be 18 on the 22nd (dropped out of school and just had a child of his own), The middle child just turned 16. She is still in school, living with my brother in law and his wife.
My hubby is still paying for these 2 kids (it's going to the mom). We have put in for a modification several times but were told there is nothing we can do unless we get something from a court showing the situation. We called a lawyer in Texas and it would be $1000.00 and that's not guaranteeing it would clear up any of the arrearages etc. We don't have the money as there is $185 a week being taken out for child support, my husband brings home between 130-190 a week (no health insurance) and I am not working due to health issues. Also I think I heard we could apparently get some sort of legal aid to help us with this if we weren't crossing state lines but we are out of luck otherwise???? We had gotten children services involved to see if the youngest was okay in the house as the older kids left due to mom & her boyfriends, drinking, drugs, and domestics. They allowed him to stay as he wouldn't speak against his mother (wanted to be there to protect her from her abusive boyfriend) and said that the older kids were old enough to make up their mind where they wanted to live as long as they were in no danger. The kids would have been happy to live with us and know they have always been welcome, except for the distance and they didn't want to be so far from their cousins (huge family) on their moms side. Also what will happen when the oldest turns 18? The child support amount has never been figured right and for several years though my husband worked continually only $75-$100 was taken out during a lot of that time, and he now has like $28,000 in arrears though he worked and paid all but 1 yr of that time. She is greedy and resentful that he left her town as though they had split for 3 years before he met me, he would still give her money to shut her up. After 2 years into our marriage he would no longer take her phone calls (but always welcomed the kids to call) so she would have the kids call collect, he would think something was wrong and then she would get on the phone and scream at him. Is there anything we can do with no money? We have put in for modifications but they take forever through texas. We were told that there was a stack as tall as the gentleman on the phone (and he said he was 6ft) and our folder was at the bottom of it. Help???? Posted on 11/07/09, 02:11 am |
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i guarantee you, it will cost you more to fight this than to simply pay the next 2 years, till the younger one turns 16. Then stop paying. Let her hire an attorney to try and come after you for the money. 
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Wow. Okay. Well the old adage "you can't get blood from a turnip" totally holds true with us - we have nothing to give. She's the one with the new car and people have given her two homes now. Cost of living is exceedingly low down there with homes and gasoline. Groceries are high and decent jobs are few other than the prison. She has destroyed hers and my husbands credit, can't get utilities in her name and has to use other peoples information and then ruins their credit too. There is a prison nearby and a bunch of the guards move into the area for the job and buy or build pre-manufactured homes. When the guards leave or get other places, these places sit empty as no one buys them. She gets to know them, starts making friends, they feel sorry for her and let her move in and starts making payments, pretty soon she stops making payments and twice they have said "oh, that's okay we understand, you're not getting any help with those three kids - just take it". She moved from one into another and did the same thing!
She tells them she's not getting any help, no money from my husband and that he left her and the kids (NOT - they were already living other places for 3 yrs) and that she's not getting any help. I turned her in at first because she was committing Section 8 fraud - she wasn't working, but collecting 185 a week child support and was living rent free in her apartment as she inadvertently didn't mention (and apparently they don't check) about the child support. She also at that time couldn't afford to give the kids anything for christmas. So she was thrown off the program after I called and let them in on the rest of the story. Apparently she got used to the "no rent" scenario. Also when my husband left that town, he signed over the two properties he owned to her. He did it for the kids, thinking she could live in one and rent out the other to pay bills and that the kids would be set. She GAVE them to her brothers and then moved into her rent-free apartment. One of the brothers lost his house for $800.00 in back taxes. I'm sorry. I posted a question to get help on the current situation and it drudged up old wounds. Basically if an attorney would try to come after us, there's nothing to take. When my oldest step-son turns 18 will the payment amount she is getting stay the same due to the arrearages? Also when all the kids have finally grown, will the amount stay the same that they garnish or how much will it drop from the $185/week? Thank you for any advisement.
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