Cervical Cancer Support Group

hun i am so sorry to hear of ur diagnosis but im glad that u have gd drs. and are in gd hands. this tends to be a very hard time not only for the person with the diagnosis but for their friends and families too. the best advice i can give is this is a time u need to focus on u. a dear friend once told me that u cant take care of everyone and fight the cancer. make u ur priority and i guarantee when ur friends and family see ur courage and strength they too will follow that path. i will be praying for u. U have come to the right place for support. hang in there and have faith!

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Last year it was very surreal for me too. It happened so fast it seemed. just the year before my pap was normal as it had always been and then last year my regular check up at pap was cancer. an aggressive form, non hpv related. Fortunately it was caught early. Thank goodness for regular check ups it saved my life. I had no choice but to undergo a radical hysterect. And there were sick lymphnoids but not cancer, thus far my body had not let it spread. But it was very hard because it did just seem like it couldn't be happening.

I aggree with erin. It is time to focus on yourself. It is hard on you and all those who care about you. The future seems so uncertain and people who love you worry and worry at that unknown and etc. They have valid feelings as you do to. all of it is valid but you are not responsible for them and taking care of them. In showing them that you are focused and honest they will follow that path too. I do believe that we lead by example. as a program I am in and work they say "attraction rather than promotion."

Taking care of you to fight cancer is one of the greatest assests to fighting cancer.

One of my good friends went through breast cancer two years ago and she has three children, one a young adult and twins that were about 8 years old and then her husband. They had family meetings to talk. Especially in the beginning. That way everyone could be on the same page so to speak. Her doctors has suggested it. There was info and stuff they could read together and how to care for each other and take care of themselves.

My husband and I talked like that too. I felt very fortunate to be supported in that way. My parents and family were the hardest because they just basically had me dying from the start and big crisis and I just couldn't take that. but I did lead by positive example and expressed myself honestly and let them have their feelings without taking it on myself.

I, this month, celebrated one year cancer free!!! I follow up with testing every 4 months because the future is unknown and I know my best chance at continuing to have a healthy life is early detection, praying that it actually never comes back though.

God bless, big hugs. There is great support here. If you need to vent or anything please feel free to message me anytime, I will respond. I am not necessarily on the computer daily but I will respond as soon as I get the message. If you have any questions or anything about anything. Please ask. I am here. I am glad you have good doctors and are in good hands. That is awesomee!

Thank you both, so much for replying. I'm having so many mood swings throughout the day from wanting to be alone to wanting my friends and family close.

I'm finding that a lot of people just don't know what to say and it makes for an awkward encounter. I look and act the same (with the exception of being tired). I just have something going on that needs to get taken care of.

Having a support group here gives me so much comfort that I can speak freely with other women who are in my shoes. I am so grateful!

I have a strong relationship with Jesus, and so just in that I know I'll be ok. :)

As a mom, I want to make sure that everyone else holds up so that when I'm feeling down, I don't drag them down with me.

We have not told the children yet because they're so young and I don't think they would understand. Plus, I still want them to be themselves and not treat me any differently. If I have to have the surgery, I will tell them that I've got a couple of broken parts that the doctors are going to fix for me.

I say the words, "I totally have cancer" and I still don't believe it.

Mood swings everything is all normal. which probably doesn't help much. but I am so glad you are reaching out.

Take care of you. God Bless you.

anytime, message me if you want. I am glad I could respond to your post.

You have had very good advice from both erin & freedom. I would only reinforce what they have already said and also tell you that I was diagnosed 23 years ago, had a radical hysterectomy and radiation. Then six years later, I had a recurrence and a year of chemotherapy. I want you to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. There are good women on this site who are here to support you. I'm one of them. Call on me anytime as well. God bless you.

My heart goes out to you. I certainly feel your pain and completly understand what you are going through as I was just informed on Tuesday (5/19/09) that my PAP and ECC came back positive for Adenocarcinoma. Things for me are moving really fast. So, fast that I can't even catch my breath. I have already met with a Gynocological Oncologist (5/21/09) and have surgery scheduled for 5/26/09 ~ he's going to do a Conization. Until the pathology reports come back from the biopsy he did along with the conization, I won't know exactly what kind we are dealing with or what stage it's in. He seems to think that it may be stage 0 because upon visual examination of the cervix, it looks healthy. So, he's quite sure that the conization will be enough to remove any abnormal cells that are there. I, on the other hand, can't seem to shake the feelings of gloom and doom. I just feel in my gut that it's worse than that (higher up in the cervix or uterus) because I had been having most of the symptoms they say you'd feel with the advanced stages of the disease..... I hope I'm wrong!

QueenieEJC - Just reading what you have been through, brought tears to my eyes. You are a complete inspiration to me. I may take you up on the offer for the phone call. I'm in a pretty low place this morning. We have church in a couple of hours and I can't wait to get there.

YoxDoyle - Oh gosh, my heart went out to you when I read how fast everything is happening. Thank God they're taking care of it quickly though. Having time to dwell on it like I have hasn't done well for me or my husband. You will be in my daily prayers and I can't wait to hear back from you with the results of the surgery.

My husband is very angry right now and I don't know how to handle it. I know he cares, but he's expressing it in anger. Last night, he wanted to be intimate, but sex is just too painful for me and I end up turning him down. I felt last night that I'm a lousy wife who was never any good for anything else but sex to him. I have tears in my eyes writing this. I've given him two awesome children, work full time and keep a clean, loving home. I just don't know what to say anymore to him. It hurts so much and I feel worthless to him and I hate feeling this way.

If anyone would like to chat or call me (I'm on a Verizon cell) please message me.

Thank you Kelley ~ you will be in my prayers as well.

My husband and I are going through the same sort of thing (intamacy issues). Mine just keeps bringing up how long it's going to be before we can have intercourse again. I love him with all my heart but I'm sorry ~ Sex is the LAST thing on my mind right now! In our case, I seem to be the one who is getting angry and moody. They (the Husbands) need to understand that it's not personal WE are the ones who are fighting this DEMON inside of us. It's such a roller coaster of emotions and feelings that I sometimes feel like I'm going CRAZY (I'm sure you and every other woman dealing with this feels the same way). Just stay strong and concentrate on YOUR feelings. I know that sounds harsh but, you need to take care of you right now.

Best of luck to you.

Dear ladies /Doyle and Kelly -its understandable the stress you both feel right now -as you decide and proceed w/your treatments plans positive healing will come and the love and support of family and friends.I have not posted here in a while -but I have a niece w/ cervical Adeno C . Keep us posted and there is a very informative web site called 'Gyne Gals'. Caring wishes to everyone ' Kt

I wanted to add another site that I use -very helpful members . Google it-its called Health Message Boards (I think its sponser is Web MD) Come back and update us Ladies -Today I planted all types of flowers with all of us strong ladies in mind . Kt