Cerebral Palsy Support Group

everybody gets frustrated , I like the comment that cp is a blessing I often wonder if I would have empathy and be able to except people as they are if I haven't been rejected in my life I guess he does have a point

I do not liek the flowery emotional responses as they dont give me anything reasonable to help cope. please ggive me something that my mind can use as traction to pull myself up when i am down.

dude, this is not an easy topic. and our experiences and responses are ways that we deal with being different. as one popular self help program says, 'take what you like and leave the rest'. i hope you can be gentle on yourself and cultivate love for you and your talents-- let the people who dare to give you problems fade away in your mind. this is not easy and took years of practice for me. to this day, i still have people make comments when i'm walking down the street. but i try really hard to not let them 'rent space in my head'.

hugs,

nikL

i restate my previous claim of being a freak. god damnit i cant take it.

Guess what? I limp too! BUT if anyone is so concerned with that aspect of you THEN they are not worth having in your life. I have struggled to get to the point where I am comfortable with that fact about me as well. It still is not easy to overcome all the time and I have days where I wish I didn't limp. I know you are probably concerned with how the opposite sex views you in this regard. The same goes for them as I stated above...If they truely love you then they will accept all of you. I recently found the love of my life and it does not matter to him. Hang in there and if you need to chat, then feel free to send a message.

i cant improve on what sharabi said. If you get open to ppl accepting you,it will make you a happier person. Plz look up the 'serenity prayer' even if you dont believe in God, The attitude you'll find will help
God Bless

Chris,

I have a limp also but I typically don’t focus on it. Occasionally I will walk by a large window and think, “Wow, I really walk like that, but for the most part, I don’t focus on it.

I am a happy, outgoing, friendly guy. Extremely confident and well respected at work. I work in a company that employs 90% women. I have women attempting to flirt with me all the time, no exaggeration and some are just over-the–top with it and directly state their desire to pursue some kind of romantic relationship with me. My disability is obvious so apparently they don’t care.

For the record I am married and would never cheat on my wife. I have too much respect for myself, my wife, and our family. And yes I love God too much to ever accept their advances, but it does make my ego feel good.

Deep thread. I'm new here, and I don't have CP. I'm raising a baby (well he's 3, so I guess he's a toddler...even tho he can't toddle yet) who has CP, mild, muscular with potential future rage issues due to brain bleeds at birth. Reading these issues is very "flowery emo" for me, as it gives me a glimpse into issues my son (he is now, since his "parents" were irredeemable druggies) will face eventually. As a parent, he's awesome. Growing up, I was a fat kid, physically non-gifted (albeit not "handicapped") and sick smart. I was reviled as a child. All of these different perspectives lead me to advise you to just realize that no matter what, if you're of average intelligence (judging by your posts you're well above) half the people you'll ever meet are stupider than you. Everybody is f'd up. You may LOOK f'd up when you walk, but listen to most people try to form a sentence and you'll realize who really has the handicap. Being exceptional makes you fascinating, and sure...1000 years ago a limp would have left you in the woods waiting for the spirits to eat you or whatever... today it makes you a conversation piece. Use your personality, intelligence, and wit (which I see you have) to take advantage of it. These days, anything that sets you apart makes you worth talking about and/or to, which is marketable. For every instance where someone looks down on you, several others are waiting to hear what you have to say if you can remain upbeat and offer what you have to offer. Mad love my friend, and I wish u the best.

well chis if it wasn't for god i could not make through the day i do limp to sometime feel like freak too but now i use walker and wheelchiar at time but i keep going i know i not freak but get down on myself but keep going it the way see yourself take care

what I was trying to say there are things we learn that we wouldn't have otherwise You are young and see your self as different but no one is exactly the same so everybody is different do you think people wearing glasses are freaks? they have something wrong with there eyes