What is Caring-For-Aging-Parents
Elderly care or simply eldercare is the fulfillment of the special needs and requirements that are unique to senior citizens. This broad term encompasses such services as assisted ...
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I was late making mom's breakfast and she smarted off to me that she has never been fed this late and thought I wasn't going to feed her at all!
She is totally unsympathetic that I have four diseases and am still trying to care for her. I told her it was the meanest thing she has ever said to me and I gave her the food and went back into my room almost running and broke down into tears. I mist have the most unsympathetic family in the world. Not one of them (husband, mother, daughter) shows one ounce of love or compassion for me and what I am going through. God willing, if I live long enough to get my disability put through I am going to take a week's vacation and do nothing but rest!!! Please send prayers and hugs for me. I feel so unloved right now. *tears* Posted on 10/30/09, 09:10 am |
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I can't resist asking: Do you complain about your health a lot?
When we first got three little grandchildren to raise (a whole other discussion board), all I did was talk about how hard it was on me. My husband works weekends, so I basically have the kids full-time. The tension in the house was amazing. Then I prayed that God would change my heart and within about two weeks I could feel a difference. I stopped whining and complaining, and just focused on my chores, my work, my own duties. If someone criticized something I did, I either didn't respond or said something like "oh, well then," or "sorry you feel that way" and continued about my own business. The change in everyone else has been equally amazing! My husband started telling me he understood that he wasn't fully participating, and is taking steps to make things easier on me. The kids behave much better, and while everything isn't perfect it's much better than it was. It's almost as if that phrase "actions speak louder than words" really came to life. When I stopped focusing on my needs, everyone else was suddenly able to clearly see that I was shouldering the entire burden -- and the contrast between us was so obvious that they couldn't miss it. Worth thinking about, anyway :-) 
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It's unfortunate that your mom, and the rest of your family don't show compassion for your illness. I was wondering if your mom is experiencing cognitive impairment. if she is, that may explain why she's not sympathetic to your needs.
You are in my thoughts and prayers....take good care of yourself. *Hugs* Sabrina
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I know exactly what you are going through. Although I've never been married, I grew up in a family that lacked compassion and empathy and it's hard experiencing that when you are a child and a teenager and I would get very upset. Now that I am mature and have knowledge through experience, it is best for me now to just say to myself "well, that's how they are but I'm not going to let that make me crazy". Don't let other people's deficiencies get to you, even if you live with them. Remind yourself constantly when upsetting things happen that the people who are hurting your feelings cannot be changed and it's their problem that they lack humanity. Maintain your dignity and don't lose any of the wonderful qualities you have.
Here's lot of hugs and prayers.
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