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The senior apartment complex where my mom lives is planning on evicting her. They are evicting her because she has destroyed property belonging to her neighbor on 3 occasions and the neighbors are complaining about the noise coming from her apartment.She is behaving this way partly because of her mental illness which she refuses to get treatment for. There are also some physical ailments that may be contributing to the mental illness. I tried last year to get her in assisted living but to no avail . Her living with me is not an option. The place I live is like for 1 person or a married couple. Very small. Also I can't handle her. Her temper is terrible and she's delusional. And frankly I would not want go to sleep around her night after night. I had to call the csb to try and get them to see if they could medical help for her. There was a possibly at one time if she had gotten medical help, the manager at her complex would been willing to let her stay as long she was taking meds for the mental problems and that it was stabilizing her. My mom is 72. How do I declare her incompetant? She needs to be in assisted care or a nursing care where she can get the care she needs. How do I start the process, I don't have money for lawyers nor do I qualify for legal aid.
Posted on 09/07/09, 06:09 pm |
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Have you spoken with her doctor? He or she may have some suggestions about what you can do. Otherwise, you'll have to consult with an attorney. Declaring someone incompetent is fairly complicated, but it sure sounds as if you could do it in your mother's case.
I'm so sorry you're going through this -- it must be awful to love someone whose mind is disordered. Has she always been this way, or did it start recently (as in some type of dementia)? Also, you could try to ask someone in your local senior services agency -- they might be able to help, either with the apartment manager or directly with your mother. I will say prayers for you!!!! 
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Sara, thanks for your reply it helps to know that somebody cares. My mom had been refusing medical care. I managed to get her to go to the doctor 2 times last year, after that she wouldnot go. I wasnot raised by mom so I don't know if she has always had mental problems. Today the CSB did an eco on her. Thats when they take you for medical care and you don't have much say in. I hope from the hospital they put her in assisted living.
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Maybe you can talk to them while she's still in the hospital. I know they have literature of various living options.
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Angel, I was going to mention what Sara did about maybe checking with the agency for elderly that is similar to Children Service. Its called Adult Protective Services and it for cases exactly like yours.
I would imagine the facility where your Mother is now should get those people involved so your Mother will be safe from herself. This is a difficult situation for you and anyone in need of protecting a loved one from themselves. And I would think that you should be able to complete forms with the help of her Dr and approach the court (usually only a judge) with getting her declared incompetent. You have the apt manager where she lives as well to give a statement regarding her behavior, etc. I do hope this hospital stay will take care of much of this for you. Do not hesitate to get the Social Worker and Dr's that are seeing her involved in helping you with this. And, please keep up posted as you are in our thoughts and prayers. This is never an easy thing to tend to and you need a place to vent and have a listening ear and we are here.
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I did get in touch A,P. services they referred me back to the agency that had her hospitalized. The agency she's under now possibly helps with housing. I guess I will find out tomorrow. thank you everyone for your suggestions. Your help is appreciated
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My mom was not that bad, but she had a lot of health issues and lucklily she was never violent, but when she was in the hospital, we spoke with a social worker and they gave us a lot of information. You might want to try that, also if you need help, tell them that you need help, she could put herself or you in danger and there is no one to help. Good luck sweetie. I know this is hard to go through. Please keep us posted.
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Wow, I really feel for you... I don't have a clue as to where you go for help, I don't know what state you live in.... It is horrible that you are having to take care of someone that did not even take care of you when you were growing up, it seems that is the way the cards are falling these days for many people.
Don't give up, I hope you don't make yourself feel guilty about her not being able to come live with you. I would not even make it an option. I do hope and pray you are able to find housing for her. As you should not even be having to worry about this right now. She should not even be a concern of yours. funny how just because she is your parent it has fallen on you though. God has special places for people like you. Let me know what state you are in and I willl help you research some help... that is what I do best.... I will be more than happy to help you find out some information and even help you find a place for her to go for proper care so you no longer have to worry yourself sick!! ~D
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