Caring For Aging Parents Support Group

The day that you'll have to take over may come gradually or suddenly, so it's a good idea to know where all of the important papers are (medical records, insurance, birth certificates, etc.). Also, find the state of your family's finances, so that you won't get blindsided by funeral costs, etc.

You may want to discuss a Power of Attorney (or whatever they call it in the UK) with a solicitor. When my mother, who had dementia, came to live with us, I asked if I could have one drawn up. To make her feel better about it, I placed it in her room so she knew she had control over it. When the time came to place her in a nursing home several years later, everything went smoother because I had it.

Other than that, maybe lining up part-time caretakers in your neighborhood in case you need respite care.

As my mother's doctor told me, "you'll know when it's time" to step in. So I just went about my normal life and sure enough, when it was time the signs were unmistakable.

I will say prayers for you and your family!

Thank you Sara, I hadn't even thought of the legal implications of it all.

Wow, your Dad has an awesome responsibility. Like Sara said, maybe you could offer to help him look for some resources for respite care. I'm sure he needs a break now and then. If you're not able to help him out physically, because of your disability ,he probably needs lots of encouragement. Also, you might just offer to visit and play cards with them or something while he takes a shower or pays the bills, uninterrupted. Caregiving can be very lonely so be sure to keep in touch with him, just knowing someone cares is a great comfort. God Bless all of you, Joy