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Breastfeeding baby father in laws wedding.. drama
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So my baby girl (Nollie) is six weeks old and I exclusively breastfeed. I cannot pump (doctors orders) because I already produce so much milk that it chokes the baby and gets in her nasal passages (I pumped five ounces from one breast in less the five minutes a few weeks ago) She also refuses a bottle so it doesn't matter anyway.
Well my husbands dad is getting married early December, and at the hospital (day after I had the baby) I said in passing that we'd have to buy a pretty dress for Nollie for the wedding and his fiance very rudely said that the baby was in no way invited to come to the wedding and I would just have to find a sitter and that the only baby that was going to her wedding was her niece Sofia (who is like 1 year old) My Father-In-Law didn't say anything. Well at the time I didn't say anything because I was way too tired (just had a baby) and I didn't feel like the drama and figured I'd deal with it when it got closer. So last week I told my husband I wasn't going to the wedding because there was no way I could go (Nollie eats every 30 minutes to 1 1/2 hrs. Her tongue was tied so she use to have a lot of small feedings because her tongue would get tired and she just got it clipped and is still in the habit of eating small meals at a time. Well my husband was mad at the situation and said that I had to go and he would talk to his dad. Well I already felt really stupid and unwelcomed and just didn't want to go at all and didn't want to make a fuss; but my husband is standing in the wedding and he said if we couldn't go he wasn't gonna go either. So I'm like Oh great here we go... drama He talked to his Dad and his dad said he wanted the baby to come and would talk to Ms Davi (his fiance) about it (which if he really wanted her to come he would have told her something himself but whatever) So my husband called me today and apparently his dad and Ms. Davi got into a big fight until finally her sister convinced her to let me bring the baby. So NOW I REALLY DON'T WANT TO GO she obviously doesn't want us there if she's willing to fight about it, and it's her wedding. I want to just give her what she wants but my husband is determined that we are all going and claims his dad really wants the baby there (which I think is BS) What do I do? I'm gonna feel so stupid and un-welcomed. It's her wedding and she should get what she wants right? Even if she is being a witch and won't allow her husbands only breastfeeding grandchild to come to their wedding. It's her thing let her have it; but I don't want to cause anymore drama that is not needed. Advice?!?!?! Posted on 11/05/09, 09:11 pm |
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Go, and have a great time, with your precious baby! Who cares about the witch? I ave gone to all sorts of functions with bf infants...some people gawk, but really, the are a lot less o a problem than a ff baby.You can just bf, and have baby fall asleep on the breast, at which point you can carefully transfer to the stroller. Stop fretting about it, and make sure you have a great time. I am sure you will, and that many people will give you many positive comments! Just make sure they do not touch her without washing their hands first. 
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See, I disagree with Franny. I say don't go. Why put yourself through that? Stay home and cuddle with your little one all day! :)
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Grr. I hit enter before I was ready!
The reason I say this is, a good friend of mine was expecting a baby and her mother-in-law was holding a fancy-schmancy shower for her. My other friend called the mother-in-law to ask if she could bring her 1-year-old with her, as she had no one to watch the baby while she went to the shower. The mother-in-law said no. But my friend brought her daughter anyway and we got huge glares and ugly looks the whole time, not just from the mother-in-law but from other attendees who were mad they couldn't bring their kids! My friend said afterward she wished she'd just stayed home. Although I think your father in law and his fiance are being unreasonable, with such a new little one I don't think you want to bring that kind of stress down on yourself for something you don't want to go to anyway.
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I say avoid it. Instead of bringing the whole thing up, just say your baby is young and the doctor said not to take her where groups of people are gathering....H1N1 you know? Hopefully bridezilla will get over herself if you are staying away for the health of her soon to be grandchild!
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What's with it being okay for a 1 y/o to go but not an infant (who tend to be less of a fuss) and what kind of woman basically uninvites you in the hospital (considering your husband's standing in the wedding)? Ack, I say go to make your husband and your FIL happy and just ignore her.
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I would go, it will get under her skin and show you arnt scared of her.
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I say go with your gut. If you don't feel comfortable, don't go. Just explain to your husband that you don't want to deal with the drama. I'm sure it's a bummer for him though as he's in the wedding and would like for you to be there, but in the long run, I'm sure he'd understand if you were totally uncomfortable with it after all the fiance has said.
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I wouldn't go. Who needs that kind of drama. And if your hubby complains remind him that it's not you who started this. This is the first time I heard that there's a place where kids are not welcome. Gosh!
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I can see two sides of the story. But it makes no sense to be bitter and stay at home. Stay at home if that is what you really want. Otherwise, Bridezilla gets the upper hand. People love babies, and people love babies at weddings....after all, you know how they say first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby....in a way, it is very symbolic to have new life at a wedding!
Is the bride very yong and stupid, or something? Does she have any kids of her own already? Maybe that is why she has hangups. She may also feel jealous of you, or that you may somehow draw attention away from her. THat is her problem though. Your dh is not responsible for this, and it is his dad. If he wants you to be with him, he should not have to go alone, IMO. That is why I think that the best way is to try to keep the family peace; not let her know you are upset or offended, and go and have a great time! Otherwise, she "wins"!
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If its important to your husband and your Father in law, I would go but leave earlier, don't worry about having to feed the baby in public, has a cover up or excuse yourself if needed. but if the baby is young at the wedding time you do need to be careful of sickness, my doctor said not to take my children to public places or places with people I didn't know till they were 8 weeks old.
That would be my only concern, but if its important to him go and be done with it. Who cares what she think and its her wedding, its really silly actually that the baby couldn't come.its not all about her even though its her wedding, the groom has a right too, his grandbaby should be there if he wants her.
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