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Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse. The main causes of divorce in 2004, according to a recent study, were extra-marita...
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I posted the following post in the Depression group because that's where I visit the most, but I wanted to post it here since this is the break up/divorce group.
So, I haven't posted in awhile...personal reasons, etc where me leaving for a little bit was a good idea. Now, I am faced with something terrible. My husband of eight years tells me today that he think we need a separation. He says, "I don't think I am what you need". And "We are going in different directions." I am devastated. I think there is hope, but I am devastated. We've been together for 11 years, married for 8 with one child. We love each other, trust each other...all the peices are there, but the puzzle isn't working. I am confused, mortified, and generally upset...wanting to rip my heart through my throat. Posted on 11/08/09, 09:11 pm Posted on 11/08/09, 09:11 pm |
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I'm sorry for your pain. We know that drill all too well and it is so sad to see someone going through this hurt. Here are the links that a fellow DS member, PGamble, put together. We all care. It's time roll up your sleeves and start taking those necessary steps before we MARCH MARCH MARCH. Do your part and we will walk beside you and you should seek counseling in addition to your daily strength. Godspeed.
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Sorry you have to be here but glad you found us. Have you tried counseling? It may help you save your marraige. Good luck to you and we have been there, so we know what you are going through. Big hugs!
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Thanks for this wonderful reponse. He tells me tonight that we need to make changes. I can't say this is a shock, but to get him to this point is a shock.
What are these links? Also, I have been in therapy since March...I suggested couples counseling, but he doesn't want to.
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The links are a gift from the people here. It is shared wisdom. I hope you find strength in them. Open them...find out.
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Thanks so much, guys! I am going to check them out tomorrow. I am tired, and sad, and confused...and I am thinking of 100 things right now like how will this affect my son? Can I afford it? What about Xmas? These thoughts are bumming me out big time, and I am just really dumbfounded. I hate to sound like a whiny jerk. Thanks again to all of you for reaching out to a newbie.
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A suggestion- write down the thoughts that are whirling around in your head and you might find something that you would like to post in this group. We love to help.
Lynne
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this is a great place to find advice, support, insight and friendship...It is so early in this journey for you, I hope you gain peace and clarity very soon...take care of yourself and hang in there ~ ona day at a time...one minute at a time if you need to...
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hugs to you
keep reaching out and talking about your feelings. the support you can find here will really help. best of luck to you. hang in there. you will get through this. hugs
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You guys are great. Like, this morning...he didn't kiss me good bye, which is weird. We aren't arguing right now, and he tells me last night that "we definitely need to changes and lets take it one day at a time", but I also feel like he doesn't seem particularly bothered by this. He says he is, but I am a mess, and he seems A-OK. It's my perception I know, but that is making it hurt more.
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