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Yeah, this is your attempt to slander.. not help. This is passive aggressive at it's core and it is ugly... you are doing all of this to slander and hurt not to help. You have hurt yourself by making this decision and now you want to hurt me for it. I asked you to stop, if you don't stop I will have to report you for abuse.

I am not sure what you are talking about Boricuamami? Are you mistaking me for somebody else? I am not sure what part of my post is slandar or Passive Aggressiveness? I feel that people need to see this as I dealt with it before...

TO be honest I have never been the jealous type... and I mean NEVER. I still don't believe I am the jealous type even though I got completely burned. I will tell you this though I will never again allow myself to be played for a complete fool. I did not find out about my STBX's affair until after 10 months that it started and I had already moved out of the home yet he was still playing head games with me. I could not believe that I didn't question all his trips to NY at least once every month. I can't believe that I believed him when he said he was going to go spend time with his family. I can't believe I believed him when he claimed the OW's phone number was his little nieces. NEVER AGAIN.

Well this is what I mean and I will not participate with you in this behavior anymore. It it hurtful and angry, and I would rather spend my time in love and healing, than wasting my time like this.

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Step: I know you are talking about your current situation and I will not make it about me.

I find that SOME articles are not the know all for certain situations. Your lady needs to get counseling based on what you described the other day.

I'm confused by one of the posters here but....I guess it is up for interpretation. It is not about me but.....if I those traits, I guess I would be offended?

I wish you the best....

Step...BoricuaMami's response made me wonder. Is she your ex? If so, don't you think that any attempt to point certain things out publicly is in poor taste? I will bow out gently from further participation because it is clear one or the other is going to get hurt and I don't want to be associated with it. Godspeed to both.

i came to the same conclusion Z ... and if so.. thats too bad that it was brought here... regardless of what someone has done to me, I never make it public cus I wouldn't want others to form any opinions of her ... they can form their own once any masks that are on, have been removed.

Okay, so someone posts a question, not say HEY THIS IS MY EX until the Ex jumps in and goes "YOU ARE DOING THIS TO POINT AT OUR RELATIONSHIP"

Guess what? Most people had no freaking clue who the two of you are, that there was a relationship or an issue.

This is NOT abuse. This is TRIGGERING for you, it is NOT abuse.

My suggestion is IGNORE because there has been no personal comments, positive or negative made towards you.

My intent was never to hurt but to find out what I am doing wrong versus what I can do to avoid further damage to the relationship. I realize now that once I read this article that this is what I been dealing with. Sorry it became two sided....it wasn't supposed too.

"alittleconfused", that is right. If you read my other post. I didn't mention name and all the problems I have. I just focused on this jealousy issue. NOW I know what I dealt with is a Irrational Jealousy issue. Something new for me. I read it top to bottom several times and it's hitting me like a brickwall...Wow...sometimes you have to end an relationship to figure out what went wrong...Sorry I hurt anybody.