What is Breakups Divorce
Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse. The main causes of divorce in 2004, according to a recent study, were extra-marita...
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remorse ~~ forgiveness ~~ time
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I'm still at work at 8pm and have CBCRadio! on to keep me company. I just listened to an interview between the daughter of a British MP , and the person responsible for the IRA bombing that killed her father.
It was a remarkable discussion to listen to between 2 people who have met 60 times, learning about compassion, remorse, and forgiveness. I wonder if I'll ever be able to come to that level of forgiveness for what my exS did to me. The human spirit can be so remarkable. I dont know that I have the capacity to reach for that level of spirit. http://www.cbc.ca/thecurrent/2009/... Posted on 11/06/09, 08:11 pm |
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Definitely NOT a snap of the fingers.... and yes... a process.
That process may be longer for some than others, we heal in our own individuals ways and make our own personal choices in this regard. Some like to seethe in pain and suffer because perhaps they feel this gives them the upper hand. And no, you cant forget..because if you do it brings you right back to the beginning. I think we need to examine and really understand our paths and the process to really get it. Never ever ever in a million years at the beginning of my journey did I ever think it would be possible to forgive my X. Never. Alas, I am in a very different place right now. My heart has indeed softened. Along with that, I freed myself from some the anguish and that is a fantastic euphoria. It took the burden off of me. It was too much for me to handle... I had to turn it over. So much of this made sense to me after I read Thich Nhat Han's view on anger and how to cool the flames. He was right...the opposite of anger in compassion and that is something I can have today. Yes, its a process and a long one at that. Im 3 years into my X being gone and I can look back today as say that I am forever grateful for this journey back to myself. Im grateful for the pain I endured and grateful i made it through to the other side. Its kind of like happiness....its an inside job. 
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I can't say that I am much into the forgiving business either. To me, what she did to me and our kids, our family, is inexcusable...and my ex had a hard upbringing as well. That is no excuse. We all make choices and can learn from our mistakes. Someone once told me that you can't fix stupid...it was my EX and she was right. She just didn't know she was talking about herself at the time :(
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