Breakups & Divorce Support Group

I get that people find many things, difficult, rude, sexist, ugly or anxiety producing.

The problem is, they differ from person to person. What makes some feel icky or angry, what pushes some buttons will make others laugh, or make them reflect or have a neutral effect. We all filter the world through our own history and experience.

It's often hard to understand how someone can find something amusing that you find disgusting. It's hard to grasp how something that makes you so angry or hurt someone else can't comprehend your reaction too.

It's challenging when your full of passion about a subject to take a breath and remind yourself that what inspires you to want to take a stand is just not important to someone else.

But it's also what makes us interesting and helps us define our own values by discovering what is valued, or not, by others. It allows us a chance to find our own tribes who understand the way we filter the world, so we can easily find people who resonate with our souls. And it allows us to examine why some things are painful to us so we can decide if maybe it's time to let go of a belief that no longer suits who we want to be.

Richard Bach said "There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts."
He also said "The mark of your ignorance is the depth of your belief in injustice and tragedy. What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly."

Maybe we could all look at something tripping our triggers as an opportunity to look at the why and get to know ourselves a little better. Maybe we can be a little grateful we aren't all the same. Maybe we can look a little harder for the gift.

Just a thought.
Posted on 11/05/09, 01:11 am