Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Too bad...you've got no choice now.
Don't give up on being a dad...

You aren't alone. My kids do have support from their father, but barely. Some days are too much to handle. I do everything I can, but feel guilty if I can't. Some days want to throw in the towel and say I can't do it.
I feel like a horrible parent, but I know i'm only human. I didn't ask for this life for them and either did my kids, but life as it was, was also worse. Acceptence is key.

It is overwhelming, I about had it today with their fighting, I had to go all "Dad" on them.... it worked, we got home, they started cleaning the house, taking care of the dog and cat, my daughter even cleaned the bathroom without me asking.... I am not that hard on them, but they do know not to push too many buttons.....

I wouldn't change this for the world, in the beginning of the divorce, I did not have custody, I thought it would be better with their mom, I was wrong, I have never doubted my parenting skill again, I have them both, she gave up, her loss, my huge major unbelievable win....

Big deep breathes Matt, enjoy it, because this time in their life and yours will not be here for long....

It is all about balance.

I noticed when we are put in situation like we are, that we as parents try to over compensate to make up for the lack of parenting on the other part. My last Girlfriend I could not make solid plans in advance because she had to run everything threw her kids. If her kids didnt want to come to town, I was screwed. If they wanted to go to the beach, I was beach bound or didn't see her. Her kids where number one ahead of everything in life, which is fine, but she was not living her life at the same time.

Of course we love our kids, of course we want to be with them.
I see people over compensate and do everything for and with their kids and we as adults cannot live that life.

I say go out and do adult things, grab a babysitter for a night and do this or that. You will notice your kids are fine and you gain a little sanity back. We can spend more time with them, but we do not need to spend every second with them.

Now, that of course is advice, but it is a little different that you want more work. Can you do your job at home so at nights you can see your kids and do some extra work?

Whatever happens, do not give up. Kids are the best thing we have

I know how much you love your kids and are just feeling overwhelmed. I think we all feel this at times, especially when you have no back up with a wife...big hugs...Yes I have wanted to run away..but I know I wouldn't get far before I missed my kids too much...

I am overwhelmed. I have a big meeting tomorrow. Kids were fighting.
My son wont get up in the mornings he sleeps till the alst second.
Wont listen...
arrgghhhh

Time to get out the water gun :) You're a great dad, Matt......big hugs!

((((((matt))))))) It's hard sometimes.. hugs to you.

Drop the quilt....almost everyone doing it alone feels the same.

It's different if you have family or friends to help, but I've never, ever had that. Gosh someone to hold the baby while I cleaned would have been nice. Instead I cut the grass when they napped. I held them during pelvic exams. I rocked them as I washed the car or changed the oil. I breast fed while on the toilet for gosh's sakes.

Some people have no idea of how good they have it. I pull it together and don't complain. But I would sure love a vacation alone without any studying or house to clean up.

Oh well, that's what retirement is for, right?

Oh man does that sound like my day.... My son is the hardest to get up.... he has found his ass dragged out of bed many of times. Oh and then there is the cold water in the face... they jump up then... I have three alarms set for him, he can sleep through all three of them going off.... arrrrrrrggggggg!