What is Breakups Divorce
Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse. The main causes of divorce in 2004, according to a recent study, were extra-marita...
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Do you ever feel like you've been widowed?
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Despite your ex still being alive?
I was giving this some thought at the weekend, and once the idea came up I couldn't shake it. What's hurting so much is the sense of incompleteness. We still had our whole lives together ahead of us and that just stopped dead when he ended it. All the way through the breakup he kept talking about how we could still be together someday once he got himself sorted, and at the very end he even implied it was me who was holding us back from reconciling. So the sense of not having fulfilled our potential is strong for me. The closest thing I can liken it to is feeling widowed - like my ex was taken away from me before our time. I know he wasn't - I know the toad left and is living a thousand miles away and probably having a ball - but I'm talking about how *I* feel, and this is the closest I can come to describing it. In a way it feels like the man I loved did die. He doesn't exist anymore because he stopped being my lover when he became my ex. That man who was in love with me and who I based our relationship on no longer exists. Does anyone else feel the same way? Posted on 11/02/09, 09:11 am |
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In a way, I feel like that. 
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yes....there was a death....the death of a promise, a vow, a marriage...R.I.P.
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Yep, I mourn everyday.
Wish I could bury him alive, but that's another story. *sighs*
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I agree with Z.
And can also NOW see the whole gaslight effect. (That's the sucky part...) I mean COME ON...if you didn't want to be with me, didn't want to be married, etc...JUST SAY IT! Don't pull strings, don't lead me on, don't "act" like everything was aiiiight, don't keep fucking with my head! AND don't keep having sex with me while screwing your girl on the side...that's all I ask. (Not too much right?) (Whoa....yeah, guess I needed to vent a bit too!) On the flip side....this has all happened for a reason. I wouldn't want to be back in that marriage. Not for one second.
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Yes. I felt that way but a death would have made more sense.
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*digging holes in backyard* (Just mail the parts UPS ya'll!) ;-)
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Only in my dreams.
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A friend of mine calls it 'an amputation'. It's hard to let go of your dream. Hard to move on with your own dream when it involved another person. And now the other person is out of the picture.
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Bridget - Perfect. An Amputation (Buy getting run over by a truck you didn't see coming LOL)
Perfect.
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I think he got decapitated.....he forgot his child.
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