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Not so much a split personality, more like she just pretended not to be married at after-hours work functions and basically stopped wearing her ring altogether when she would leave the house starting in late November '08. She carried on an affair with a co-worker under the pretense that she was no longer married even though I didn't file until March '09.

ok, he is controlling, he has some issues with you, when you confront him, what does he say about it? Maybe he is just tired about putting a nice face and finds home a place where he can put the mask down. Ignore him in an exacerated way, don't talk, let him fret, fuss, go away, punish him until he comes to you and wants to aknowledge that his behavior hurts you. Go the old fashion way if the counselling doens't work.

The solution to me seems to be to dump his lying ass and get away from the toxic a-hole.

Gee, I think you're married to my ex!

Exactly the same type of behavior.

How do you fix it? Hire a good divorce attorney and a counselor. That's how I fixed my problem.

Seriously, though. This is verbal abuse. Read The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. And get counseling for yourself to help you heal from the abuse.

Hugs!

I have to confess. I have a split personality. Big GSCH and Bigger GSCH. Some times Big GSCH does the thinking and that is when I get in trouble. It is like he has a mind of his own.

my ex would love on me and hold me,kiss me, hold hands, everything very sweet as long as we were at someones place or at a social gathering, then when we would get home, she wouldnt touch me, especially the last 6 months...she was always a fake and always will be...i seriously believe her weight loss damaged her mentally and even her own family agrees

Counseling didn't help you saw it, right? Did you try separete counseling?

Yes, we did try separate counseling. He quit after two sessions. He said he wasn't sure that he had a problem and thought the counselor was worthless. Of course, he hasn't made any effort to find a new counselor. He says we need to go to counseling together. I've told him that I absolutely would not do that again. He lies about things that have happened, and I end up looking like I'm overreacting or being unreasonable.

I am seeing a marriage counselor myself. She is very good. Even if I can't fix the marriage, I can at least learn how to avoid ending up in a relationship with someone who has the same problems.

jekyll and hyde

Not really... My x was stingy publically and at home. He never got excited about anything either in or outside the home. He became mean to me at home and even in public the last 3 months of our time together. At least he was consistent.