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None of the above. I choose me, I choose having faith that whatever comes my way is meant to be. I have no desire to live in fear the rest of my life due to anothers actions. Then again, Im not afraid to be alone either. My life is full with or without someone else in it.

I do believe there is hope for love again, and I think it isn't a mattter of picking one over the other, there has to be balance. You have to be comfortable enough to be able to handle being alone, and realize your heart needs time to heal, and being alone is scary, but necessary to re direct your life. Once you can handle being alone with yourself, and what you feel, love will find it's way back to you and when it does you'll embrace it with a clear mind, focused on what you want and deserve. I was scared to death of being alone but I know It has to happen in order for me to re-focus on what I need and want in my life. Facing your own fears are the hardest thing in life but being alone forces you to do just that, and is what I believe a major accomplishment I am embracing to stay focused.

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I don't fear being alone for the rest of my life, but I would still choose love over loneliness.

I'm with Namaste. Choosing b/w "love" or "loneliness" is not a choice. It's apples and oranges. If you are choosing a relationship out of fear of being alone, that is not love. That is desperation. Learn to be alone, and learn to love without being afraid. I think that if there is anything that I have learned, you cannot love without risk of loss and there are no guarantees. But it is worth the risk.

I'll find love again and I'm not afraid of what love will bring. I hate being lonely but Im not afraid of it.

I would chose love

I am not afraid of either one. That means I have options.

1. I don't mind living alone...done it for long periods of time

2. I put myself out there again without fear. I loved and lost...was it worth it? I cannot answer that right now.

3. I cannot choose as I have had both and I'll let life bring the mysteries and not have any expectations when it comes to matters of the heart because it is so unpredictable and volatile.

I choose me and an unknown future.

If I "fear" anything, it's not doing a good job raising my kids.

I'm not afraid to be alone. I'm pretty happy on my on now, and I'll find people to be around if and when I ever have any free time.

An older woman in my neighborhood who was widowed made herself a local at the local bar. She always drank diet cokes and became friendly with everyone there. I see myself doing that if I'm still alone and my children have grown up.