Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Yeah...what msde said :(

There is a difference in cheating and having and affair. I believe a marriage doesn't have to end because one party displayed poor judgement. No, I don't believe in "once a cheater...". It's not necessarily the cheating that ends the marriage it's the lies.

If my husband cheated once..depending on the circumstances it is possible the marriage could last. Once we get to the nerve of what caused it to happen and if it's fixable.

It is unrealistic to believe a spouse could forever only have eyes for me. Men have a tendency to share their bodies as women share our hearts. I will not compete with another womans heart. The SOB has to be sorry and offer change before he leaves our home. He doesn't get to go out into the world and see how the grass is not greener, then come home.

Good point, as always JJ. Sunnieee, I think you are very cute, please don't change your av. to women who are not;)

Would you want to be given another chance??

twostep....if I actually had changed and realized what i did was wrong......then yes i feel i should deserve another chance....I think it is easy to forgive it is the forget that is what is killing me.....

Make sure you get him changed, I am doing it, still not back, but , Boy, do I see him try!

I gave my STBX a second chance after her first LTA in 1998. She appeared to have changed but never confronted the real issue. Then she started up the behavior of having more ONS's, although I wasn't aware of it at the time, then she fell in love with one of the morons and is now immersed in the belief that its some great love story. She didn't change, she reacts to misguided emotions and is easily duped and she refuses to be honest or remorseful about her issues and her behavior.

I wouldn't give her another chance until she had basically become a completely different person, and I don't think that's going to happen.

I say no. Cheaters don't deserve a second chance. What they did the first time wasn't a mistake or an accident. It was intentional. You don't do that to somebody you love.

Someone said here that it's human nature to want to see the good in people and give them the benefit of the doubt. No one can make that decision but you. I have to say that I felt that way and took back a cheater. Low and behold he did it again!

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.

let me think about that ...HELL NO, if they screwed over ma once then that is it...for I don't think I could ever trust them again and even though that wasn't the case for me, that is the one deal breaker for me.....I have many cheater in my family and they were always apologetic and as soon as the the next will party came along it was back to the cheating ways,,,so NADA for me

Whats up with avatar?