Breakups & Divorce Support Group

I don't the all of your situation but 4 years is alot of time to carry anything. It's been almost 1 year for me and i still have days when i wake up and think the man i married could never have done this to me but he has and has so moved on with his own life that it kills me. i guess the really hard part is letting go. Letting go of the past, the hurt and trusting today. i am so afraid of feeling the way i do now for 2 or more years because i don't think i could take it. i pray, i read, i go to counseling but i am still mourning a life that i treasured. how do we enjoy now? i wish i had the answer. People say be good to yourself, do things that make you happy. i try but sometimes it actually makes me feel worse. i am trying not to romanticize it all and just be real but it's such a barrage of all different emotions hitting all at once. i sure hope my path becomes obvious to me soon and that it is one that brings some type of joy.

yeah, I sometimes have problems with similar thoughts...I sometimes remember the things that I could not do with my oldest when he was my youngests age...and then I start to cry about it and then I feel guilty cuz it took me so long to realize that I finally had my fill of his(my x)abuse. But I have the rest of my life to make up for the things that made me who I am...like taking all the time I want to spend with my kids anytime I want...so there for everyday to me that God gives me I really try to make the most of it and thank Him for it...the thoughts wont stop cuz if they did I might forget what I have been through to make me , me!hope that helped a bit...?