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Reply #1 -
04/29/08
8:08am
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I dont know if you ever get someone out of your heart. What will happen is it will get easier it takes time and the people on here will help, we will let you cry, make you laugh, let you vent and still be here. If you ever need anything we will listen. 
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Reply #2 -
04/29/08
8:09am
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With me, it just happened.I used to feel the same way u did,but we agreed he should move out,but once he was gone for a little while i learned that i would be ok without him.And once i had lost that love for him, there was no letting him back in.I guess u have to be ready to let go and accept the inevitable.This was 2 years ago,so i was married for 8 years,if i can do it,and i have self esteem issues,you can to.Be strong and keep your head up!
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Reply #3 -
04/29/08
8:11am
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It does get better, I used to take pills to sleep as well. They helped a little, but not much. It will get better, when really depends on you.
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Reply #4 -
04/29/08
8:16am
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Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Sometimes that means crying all day and night, sometimes that means making a fool of yourself, sometimes that means doing something special for yourself. You will wake up one day and feel different - better - back to your old self. And, keep talking - it helps to get it all out, but it's exhausting to process through all of this emotional turmoil!
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Reply #5 -
04/29/08
8:18am
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I was married for 19 years. Thought we had a good marriage.. HA. He walked out over a month ago. Turned out to be the best thing that has happened to me in a long time. I am now single with two boys and happy. Better than being miserable and married. Do you really want to fight for someone who doesn't want you? I think you deserve more than that. I think your better than that! Hang in there.
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Reply #6 -
04/29/08
8:24am
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NCBE, I will say what I said yesterday. Married for 19 years is cool. I think that relationships have a beginning and an end. The end comes far sooner than we want sometimes, which still doesn't make it a waste of time. You can have an awesome long term marriage/relationship with someone and there may come a time when it's over. And like you, find that there's another space that you can live in without someone, or eventually with someone else.
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Reply #7 -
04/29/08
8:26am
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I am sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time. I have been there. But after all this time and the problems, I realized I didn't have the fight in me to try and get him to stay. I didn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. But I still want to be with him. Make sense? Anyway...give it time and keep family and friends around. And I have found this site to be very therapudic so come in and vent. Take care.
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Reply #8 -
04/29/08
8:38am
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thanks everyone, talking to you all helps me a little to clear my mind. I think I am loosing hope with my husband. I can see in his eyes he is ready to leave me.
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Reply #9 -
04/29/08
9:01am
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hi i am going throught the same thing. after 23 years he tells me he no longer loves me and to get over it. i cried the way you did. but you know what. they do not deserve us. i am moving out of a million dollar home and i cant wait. no more controling no more judging. i just turned 48 and i was so sad about it. but now i cant not wait. its the first day fo the rest of our lifes
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Reply #10 -
04/29/08
9:03am
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I have to take sleeping pills to get any sleep too. Otherwise I sit and think of all the good and bad times all night. I hope I'm getting better, but I'm not willing to risk sleeping on my own yet. *Hugs*
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