Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Sorry you're feeling this way. Men suck sometimes.

My ex never noticed that I lost 40 lbs during our marriage. But made a comment after we were divorced that no matter how much weight I loss, no one would ever love me.

Needless to say, I've had a boyfriend for 3 years now, and have been asked out more times I can count. I can't say the same for him. I really don't care. He treated me so crappy during our marriage. I too used to look at his Facebook page, and the things he said about me really got to me. He found out, and closed his account.

I hope things get better for you.

Odly enough he blocked me..I can see his page but not his posts...he acts like I never even existed...he is listed as single I am listed as seperated..I don't want a divorce I haven't gotten papers yet but I know they are coming..that's not going to be my best day..

gothic-

I know how you are feeling. How a man you loved so deeply for and you thought loved you the same one day told you it's over and you are left with trying to figure out why. Tossed away like garbage.

Trust me- this sucks worse than anything on the planet.

You have to do yourself a favor and NOT look at his facebook. It's torture and right now you don't need added torture.

I'm glad that you are coming here for support, although it's not going to completely help, it's a real comfort to know people here know exactly how you feel.

And keep up with the NC. When he is ready to talk, he will contact you.

I totally blocked my ex Facebook so that I wouldn't be able to see anything about him because I knew I would be a total mess and wouldn't be able to deal with it.....

I know all of his passwords so I still can get on his email account, which I do periodically but there is really nothing on there......its a horrible feeling that we can't control....we have to look, check on what they are doing.....its horrible....
but it is not good for us! we all know this, so slowly we need to get away from it.......
its a horrible feeling knowing that they have moved on and we continue to hurt.....but believe me, he has you on his mind, he just isn't letting you know.....
we need to remind ourselves that we are better and deserve better.....
hugs

He sent me an email telling me he blocked me and now I know how it felt everytime I commented on hot guys on movies or shows..its weird because once I knew it bothered him I stopped doing it but he never seen it..like all my effort was for nothing because he never seen ne try..why can he only see the bad??

I personally think the reason we do this to ourselves is because we secretly hope they are suffering as much as we are. When you find out he is happy, or didn't care, it just tortures you and destroys you. I did that with my stbx's page for a couple weeks when we first split. My phone had 100 or so photo's on it too of her, and every night before bed I would look at them and cry.

Eventually you will get to a point that you don't want to hurt yourself anymore, and you will stop. Sadly, my wife is tech smart because of what I've taught her, so even if I wanted to keep track of her, it would be hard. But thankfully now, I have no desire to. It is ok though gothic, I think this is normal. I think it is messed up that he says he is single though. Maybe it is his way of coping with his loss of you. I can say, that if he can be that cold, it is probably best he is out of your life. You are worth something, and don't deserve the torture, so I'd say try your best to not inflict the pain onto yourself. You are better then that.

I started to do the same thing. My ex is a high profile athlete and I could always look at twitter and see people mention seeing him somewhere and sometimes it would be with another girl. I did NC for a long time and then all the sudden started looking at it again. I thought he was my soulmate as well, and I feel like its been so easy for him to move on. I wish I had answers for you, but im in search of the same answers as you. Just know your not alone in feeling this way....

Thank u..but I don't feel like I deserve better I feel like I deserve the man I married...and I do not want to move on..the only reason I'm trying is for my kids..and dating isn't something that is going to be happening ever...