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That's precisely how it is, unfortunately.

super.

Yep. Even though I'm the one who made the final call that I was done and was walking away, it still hits me like a ton of bricks sometimes. The first time REALLY took me by surprise.
The episodes are getting shorter and longer times between them, but I know I'm not done.
Part of the grieving process.
And if you have kids and are similar to me, then you also break down in tears because of "Mommy Guilt."
I keep remembering what my Mom used to say... "This too shall pass."

Hang in there.

Unforunately, yes. Welcome to the roller-coaster. But at least know that you are not alone, we can relate :-)

And, it does get less intense over time.

(((((Hugs)))))

My Mom says that too. In fact she said it to me yesterday jeanine.

I keep checking in here on DS to make sure I have not completely lost my mind- but it seems I am going through the normal process...as awful as it may be.

As comforting as it is that you all can relate- it's so sad that we have to feel this way- all so confusing.

Mornings are rough in general. But I had an episode on late Sunday afternoon. I think the heat and fatigue got to me and I missed her so much I cried. I washed up and took a short nap under a fan and it got better. Maybe I can lessen the relapses if I avoid certain triggers.

Oh the triggers! They're just unpredictable!! So many things set me off- some more obvious than others of course. I think I've even changed certain expressions I used and picked up from him. Even little things like that help a bit.

Yes--that's so true! Just this morning driving to work a song came on the radio by a group my stbx loves, and set back my mood--it is impossible to avoid all the triggers! They seem to be everywhere!

I had to make a "safe" playlist for that very reason. Really.

For awhile, I'd only been listening tothe type of music that my stbx didn't like and never would have listened to. Then I thought it was safe to go back to listening to one of my old staions again (thought enough time had gone by that I'd be okay with it)--but maybe not yet :-(