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I meant, "NO...worse." it feels worse. Like he is dying. Leaving forever. NO way to sort out the feelings. Why do i care that he 'sees' me. Like my self worth is entirely resting in his acknowledging it?

Ok, take a deep breath. It is going to be hard, but you are going to realize that the past is done and over with. No man is worth all that anguish. I went through the same thing. 25 yrs married too. Do not contact him. Forget it. Keep busy,my friend. He sounds like a controlling narcissist. Trying to keep you under his thumb. Please be kind to yourself. You have done nothing wrong.

thanks, I keep finding my self wanting to beg. and plead. but i know that won;' work. i don't understand him. i could never. it's always on his terms since the breakup that we see each other. And the last time it was bad. But i let him come over. And i confronted him about the texts I got from one of his friends. (A pic of a girls cleavage and a bunch of CRUEL mean messages saying if i don't leave my ex alone, she would rip my cunt in half!!!) And he wouldn't tell me who sent it. And i i shoved him. Now he is saying I assaulted him and is going to get a restraining order on me if i contact him at all...and will be getting a new phone number so i can never contact him again in the next few days. I know... Good riddence, right? I wish it felt that way. I JUST WANTED HIM TO>>>>>Love? Me? uhhhhhhhhhhh

I have been WRECKED for days now. Totally useless.

I don't know the whole story but if he tries to get a restraining order against you, you have proof from that txt that he is harrassing and threatening you. Either way, it's toxic and I would try to distance myself from that behavior.

Having it end like that after 10plus years must be awful. Are you seeing a counselor? At least to help you during this crisis?

Hang in there! You came to a good place for some help. Counseling helps a lot too if you can do that. We all are/have gone through this here. It sux. Its a living hell. But it WILL pass. Cry, talk, yell, hug, vent... find good friends to talk to. Spill your heart out.

youre in shock, thats all. it will set in soon and things will get better.

I'm sorry korywar, I am sympathetic to this... it happened to me a few weeks ago. Cut off, changed cell number and blocked from all other communication channels, i.e. Facebook, etc. I wasn't gonna stalk him for goodness sake, just want answers.

Breathe. I'm not sure when this happened, tonight or last week or whatever but it will get better. I know you will not believe this now, but it's coming ... in time... with a lot of hard work that you will have to put in to make it possible for you to accept and move on.

It is a death, no doubt. Death of dreams, plans, future, etc. You will mourn this for awhile, it is fact and can't be changed. You came to the right place.

You aren't alone.

I need a new counselor. I am losing my damn mind. I can't eat or sleep. I have been trying to save this relationship for almost 2 yrs. And it was going good. Then...BAM he hates me. And i ended it 'cus he couldn't stop being a dick.

then i begged for him back. Thus he pulled away further.

I can;t work. I can;t see straight. I am think something is wrong with me. I am too fucking crazy over this.

I feel like someone ripped off my arm and is beating me with it. Gemini...how are you doing?

hey, theres that crazy push-me-pull-me-dance again