Breakups & Divorce Support Group

every time a nice thought of her comes into your head, add a memory of a bad time.

That is very difficult to do. There really isn't much bad to say about her, other than she hid her falling out of love from me and didn't let me even have a clue about it until she broke up with me and she was just so matter-of-fact about it, like she didn't care :(

My ex and I are going to be friends after all this. The breakup was not bitter or angry. Her parents are still my parents. I don't want to make her an enemy, even in my head. I don't think I can do that.

It is troubling though how she was just so matter-of-fact about it all and stuff. She had time to get over the relationship as she was slowly slipping away and I had no idea. It is messed up how she chose to just let it all go away instead of fight for it. She's my best friend and ... *sigh* I do feel a bit better now :)

I agree, and have been there (on your end). I think it is extremely unfair when the person who breaks it off usually knows long before they actually get the courage to break it up. Once they made the decision in their mind, they have a head start on moving on and letting you go. It's unfair. I had my heart broken 2 months ago, and I was so sad and upset and I couldn't get out of bed for days. Then, I find out he is with someone else 2 weeks later. We were in love, so I couldn't understand how he had gotten over me that quickly and be dating someone else so soon. I posted my story on here, and it really made sense when people told me just what I said .... your ex had a headstart moving on and letting go, way before you even knew it is over.

Is is unfair, and you didn't deserve that. And then there are people who can't be/don't want to be alone, so they stay in a relationship knowing it is "over" but continue to look until they find someone new. Then, they break their partner's heart. It is selfish and rude. I don't know if this is what happened, it may not have at all, but breakups are never fair. Even. Not to throw out lyrics here, but there is that one song that says, "When a heart breaks no it don't break even...What I am supposed to do when the best part of me was always you...What I am supposed to do when I'm all choked up and you're ok...." Story of my life.

Hang in here. Unfortunately, it's time that heals this kind of thing. I hate it. I wish I could just take a pill....

I agree, and have been there (on your end). I think it is extremely unfair when the person who breaks it off usually knows long before they actually get the courage to break it up. Once they made the decision in their mind, they have a head start on moving on and letting you go. It's unfair. I had my heart broken 2 months ago, and I was so sad and upset and I couldn't get out of bed for days. Then, I find out he is with someone else 2 weeks later. We were in love, so I couldn't understand how he had gotten over me that quickly and be dating someone else so soon. I posted my story on here, and it really made sense when people told me just what I said .... your ex had a headstart moving on and letting go, way before you even knew it is over.

Is is unfair, and you didn't deserve that. And then there are people who can't be/don't want to be alone, so they stay in a relationship knowing it is "over" but continue to look until they find someone new. Then, they break their partner's heart. It is selfish and rude. I don't know if this is what happened, it may not have at all, but breakups are never fair. Even. Not to throw out lyrics here, but there is that one song that says, "When a heart breaks no it don't break even...What I am supposed to do when the best part of me was always you...What I am supposed to do when I'm all choked up and you're ok...." Story of my life.

Hang in here. Unfortunately, it's time that heals this kind of thing. I hate it. I wish I could just take a pill....

I agree, and have been there (on your end). I think it is extremely unfair when the person who breaks it off usually knows long before they actually get the courage to break it up. Once they made the decision in their mind, they have a head start on moving on and letting you go. It's unfair. I had my heart broken 2 months ago, and I was so sad and upset and I couldn't get out of bed for days. Then, I find out he is with someone else 2 weeks later. We were in love, so I couldn't understand how he had gotten over me that quickly and be dating someone else so soon. I posted my story on here, and it really made sense when people told me just what I said .... your ex had a headstart moving on and letting go, way before you even knew it is over.

Is is unfair, and you didn't deserve that. And then there are people who can't be/don't want to be alone, so they stay in a relationship knowing it is "over" but continue to look until they find someone new. Then, they break their partner's heart. It is selfish and rude. I don't know if this is what happened, it may not have at all, but breakups are never fair. Even. Not to throw out lyrics here, but there is that one song that says, "When a heart breaks no it don't break even...What I am supposed to do when the best part of me was always you...What I am supposed to do when I'm all choked up and you're ok...." Story of my life.

Hang in here. Unfortunately, it's time that heals this kind of thing. I hate it. I wish I could just take a pill....

I agree, and have been there (on your end). I think it is extremely unfair when the person who breaks it off usually knows long before they actually get the courage to break it up. Once they made the decision in their mind, they have a head start on moving on and letting you go. It's unfair. I had my heart broken 2 months ago, and I was so sad and upset and I couldn't get out of bed for days. Then, I find out he is with someone else 2 weeks later. We were in love, so I couldn't understand how he had gotten over me that quickly and be dating someone else so soon. I posted my story on here, and it really made sense when people told me just what I said .... your ex had a headstart moving on and letting go, way before you even knew it is over.

Is is unfair, and you didn't deserve that. And then there are people who can't be/don't want to be alone, so they stay in a relationship knowing it is "over" but continue to look until they find someone new. Then, they break their partner's heart. It is selfish and rude. I don't know if this is what happened, it may not have at all, but breakups are never fair. Even. Not to throw out lyrics here, but there is that one song that says, "When a heart breaks no it don't break even...What I am supposed to do when the best part of me was always you...What I am supposed to do when I'm all choked up and you're ok...." Story of my life.

Hang in here. Unfortunately, it's time that heals this kind of thing. I hate it. I wish I could just take a pill....

sorry for the multiple posts. I don't know how that happened

I agree, and have been there (on your end). I think it is extremely unfair when the person who breaks it off usually knows long before they actually get the courage to break it up. Once they made the decision in their mind, they have a head start on moving on and letting you go. It's unfair. I had my heart broken 2 months ago, and I was so sad and upset and I couldn't get out of bed for days. Then, I find out he is with someone else 2 weeks later. We were in love, so I couldn't understand how he had gotten over me that quickly and be dating someone else so soon. I posted my story on here, and it really made sense when people told me just what I said .... your ex had a headstart moving on and letting go, way before you even knew it is over.

Is is unfair, and you didn't deserve that. And then there are people who can't be/don't want to be alone, so they stay in a relationship knowing it is "over" but continue to look until they find someone new. Then, they break their partner's heart. It is selfish and rude. I don't know if this is what happened, it may not have at all, but breakups are never fair. Even. Not to throw out lyrics here, but there is that one song that says, "When a heart breaks no it don't break even...What I am supposed to do when the best part of me was always you...What I am supposed to do when I'm all choked up and you're ok...." Story of my life.

Hang in here. Unfortunately, it's time that heals this kind of thing. I hate it. I wish I could just take a pill....

sorry for the multiple posts. I don't know how that happened