Breakups & Divorce Support Group

I read many posts here to learn and hopefully I can apply to my situation. But, right now I don't have a clear head at all to think through this. Here it is: I have been married for 10 yrs, no kids. I was blindsided by my wife when I told me that she wants to move on, she does not love me anymore, she wants to date, and she told me that I did not do anything wrong, She said that I took good care of her so it makes it hard for her to tell me but that what she wants. Then, I later found out that she visited and signed an agreement with a divorce lawyer office before she told me about this terrible news. She did not know that I found out about the lawyer thought. Then, most weekends now she spent time away from home. I asked her are you with someone? she did not answer yes or no. All, she said was she wants to date.. I can feel my heart pounding and so painful. We still live in same house but at each end of the house since we have 4 bedrooms. It is so painful to see her but unable to talk to her, I try and try and tell her over and over pls do not close off, pls talk to me...I told her that we are both vulnerable right now, pls take it slow and pls do commit any adultery act....She dis not say anything...

Just like this weekend, she is out again and I find the itinerary that she is with someone name Julian on this trip with one confirmation at one hotel. I could not even breathe when i saw the itinerary that they have a rendez-vous together. Last month, she went away back to back 2 weekends also. I asked her who was she with and she aid friends...

I am heartbroken, lonely, depress. I love her and I just cannot let her go even thought I know that this is not good and it is killing me.

I am now wondering when her lawyer will drop the divorce paper to me.

I beg her to think about this and let work it out...she know that I love her ...

I am afraid to know the truth since it is so painful and not the way I picture....

sorry that I am rambling,,,, I have so many things in my head right now. I cannot eat , sleep,....etc...when people see me they told me that I look sad. Nobody knows about my situation..

i want to save the marriage....
Posted on 04/13/12, 06:01 pm