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The Oedipus Complex
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My spouse after years of going away to college, schools, etc and living away from home decided to live "close" to his parents right before I met him and got married. Now, mother and son are so blinded by each other's "affection" and mom-in-law is completely happy her son has filed for a divorce against the "bad" daughter-in-law. Mom-in-law instigated lots of issues into our marriage and she makes my blood boil. I can't say anything to my spouse about it cause he gets furious if his mommy is "hurt." How do you deal with the Oedipus complex???
Posted on 11/16/07, 10:11 pm |
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I'm so sorry, It sounds like he's forgotten the leave mother & father & cleave only unto the spouse part of his vows. I don't know of anything to help unless & until he cuts the apron strings. I know it is very painful knowing you don't come first in his life. Hugs 
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so wierd you are talking about this. I just posted earlier today that my husband is back spending time with his favorite girl. His mom. I loved my mother-in-law and had a lot of respect for her raising of her kids. But like you I dont think the ambilical cord ever was cut
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My mother-in-law is satanic. Mama's boy is blind. He is in his mid-50s. How do you deal? You walk, play tug of war until she dies, or get used to coming in second, or third as the case may be.
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OMG, did I write that?????
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Honey, I dealt with the Oedipus complex before we seperated and there was nothing I could do to reason with him that his mother was interfering in our marriage. He would always say that, "She's only helping us." When we finally seperated, he went and told his mother that I left him when it was he who told me to never come back. When we went in to negotiate our divorce settlement, she was there with him in the attorney's office, and my attorney told me when I had to leave the room with my STBX to discuss something in confidence, she would sit there and talk bad about me to both my attorney and his attorney. That Oedipus complex is very hard to overcome once "mommy" gets her claws back into him. I'm sorry you have to go through it. I think it's the worst thing a wife can to go through, when the mother is the OW.
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wow, mine had OW + his mommy! this is really hard to even talk about. i respect her for raising her children pretty much on her own, but she's going to enable my mate to his grave. he has a heart condition, told by dr to stop/cut back on drinking and she'll still give him money knowing what he's buying. (off work because of the heart condition, mind you!) anything to have him back at her house, i guess.
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Get out get out now, if he can't let go of mommy and can't see that your should be the most important woman in his life then you are better off with out him. This is not going to get better with out a lot of therapy and he is never going to admit that there is a problem with his relationship with his mother.
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If their are no kids involved, I don't see you have a problem. If he's the one that filed, then he's not willing to change, my suggestion is to go with the flow and be divorced. Hopefully, you can learn from this and move on. Remember you are only human, and you cannot change everything in this world you can ony try and do right
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