Breakups & Divorce Support Group

You've got to stop. Tell him to stop and if he wants, call you in 6 months. It's hard. I know.

No contact.

My ex still told me he loved me every night and he would come over to visit me after the divorce. He said it was to see our son but his interaction with him was minutes. He would come in and make himself at home and would hold me and watch MY TV, MY REMOTE...but no physical intimacy. He was only feeding his hunger of being paid attention to and not even thinking of how this was impacting me. Shame on him but mainly...SHAME ON ME.

Take a good look at your reality. If you really counted, you would be first lady and the recipient of dignity and respect. He is selfish. Plain and simple. It is not about your feelings, it is solely about himself and he is being fed.

Stop it. You keep feeling horrible because you are not getting what you deserve and yet, it is unfathomable that you are accepting less!

He has a woman...she has him and you have anxiety, heart ache and such....not a balanced meal for the soul. There is not confusion. It is clear.

Now, it all comes to choices. Make the right one for you as no one else is going to. He is certainly thinking of his moment. You think of yours. Is this what you want? Is this what you would recommend to another woman??? To your daughter *if any*, to a niece, to a cousin and so on....NO!

HELP yourself by loving yourself, by developing a relationship with yourself. The rest will come later.

I was just dumped by someone and why I asked myself since things were going so right? He said that it is him that is damaged. I will let him own it. I am not damaged and I will not become damaged. He still calls me, texts me and I asked him if he wants me out of his life....why doesn't he just stop contacting me? His choice. Now, my choice will be to continue with life.

What is your choice? There is no confusion in what you described. Read what you wrote.

So....in the spirit of well wishes....be kind to yourself and lean on us.

All great posts here, all saying 'no contact'. I know it's difficult with kids involved, you didn't mention how old they are. Once you have had some time without these daily calls you will begin to feel the roller coaster slow down. Counseling and divorce support groups are all beneifical. Time and patience, time and patience, not easily done but does work.

This behavior is feeding his own ego, and not doing you any good.

I agree with the no contact as the best way to move on.

Your feelings of depression and anxiety are normal for someone who has been abandoned by a spouse. You are still grieving the loss. By continuing the contact, he is not allowing you to get through the grieving and start rebuilding.