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i have been dating a guy since october 2008. he is my home boy, i have known him since we were both kids. when we started dating he was unemployed untill this year in january, he got a job an dhe was not paid for two months. all this time i was supporting him. wthe problem started when he got paid for the first, he didnt even tell me that he got paid an dhe never called me up until today. i have been the onbe calling him up until july this year. from july i stopped calling him for a month an dlater in september i started calling him again. but my problem is that he keeps on lying that he will come an dsee me. an dalways tell me that things will be back to normal. howevr tlast wek i called him and the othe r girl answered his phone when i asked he never answered me. i know that its over but th problem is one i just cant let go of him, its too difficult. tried hard enought but i always fail. please help me
Posted on 11/07/09, 10:11 am |
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I am sorry for what is happening to you. I truly am and I understand what is going on. I may not be the best to give advice because I am here asking for advice for a cheating wife/divorce, but it is obvious that this guy is dirt and you should get rid of him ASAP! I know you may feel alone, lonely, scared, used, and you have a right to feel that way, but the one thing I have learned is that users tend to use and don't change their stripes. Try to find someone that will appreciate you and not take advantage. I know there are good people out there and you have to believe that. Keeping someone in your life like this has no benefits to you at all. As much as it hurts to let him go, that is what I would advise. 
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yeh, it seems like you are having trouble letting him go cus no matter how much time has gone on, you are continuing to contact him. However, it doesnt appear he is contacting you.
For me, I am finding it easier to let people go who treat me poorly, act like I don't exist or have common courtesy to respond to me. Dont get me wrong, it hurts, but if someone can not connect with you once in awhile or whatever, at some point, you have to let it go so you can move on from the hurt and that empty piece they left there inside you. I know it might be a bit hard since you's have been pals for a long time, and some times, there can be a big gap of space in time when you don't hear from a friend. the only thing you can do is just continue to live your life with out this person, focus on things you want to do, friends you have that do participate in your life, etc. if he comes back around, then great, if not, then you have already been living your life without him, so it should start to hurt less. best wishes
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This guy is using you..and right now he has someone else he can use. PLEASE get some coun seling. This is very unhealthy. You need to learn to create healthy boundaries and respect yourself. Until you do that, you will only be attracted to people who mistreat you the way you are mistreating yourself.
Sorry if that sounds harsh. Hugs.
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