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Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse. The main causes of divorce in 2004, according to a recent study, were extra-marita...
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I ended my 6 month marriage with my husband because I listened to everyone else in my family. I know we had a lot of money problems and all but I still love him. I believe he still loves me because he has told me many times even up until a couple days ago. The problem is that if I go back with him (he doesn't work and I live with my parents and I don't work to stay at home with my son, so my parents are helping me financially) I lose my family basically. So I am torn on what to do..The only way to be with him is to move out and move in with him. The only problem is that he has told me that the girl that is living with him now won't move out even since he has told her he wants nothing to do with her (he lives with his mom) So I don't know if I should believe him or believe he is playing us both. I love him but I don't know how to move on....The more I try to let go, I just can't. Please help me
Posted on 11/05/09, 04:11 pm |
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I wouldnt move back with him unless he had a job and was moving towards doing somethign with his life. Actions are what matter, not words. 
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Soap opera and drama. He's playing both of you. Move on with your life and stop obsessing over him.
When he is long gone.... it is your family who will still be there.
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I know it seems hard to let go but you can find someone who will be a better influence on your child and treat you with respect. Listen to the people on here they know what they are talking about.
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Let's break this down:
On the plus side: * a few days ago he told you he loves you * he told his girlfriend to get lost, but she won't. Unless he's lying. On the minus side: * He is living with his Mom. * He has another girlfriend. * He has no job, no way to support you. * Your family is supporting you. And your son. Yeah, ditching your family and moving in with his Mom and his new live-in ex-girlfriend sounds like a fabulous idea. Sometimes fairy tales have a lesson. Here's the lesson: the prince has to prove his love. Killing a dragon for you would be good, if he can get a sponsor who will give him a castle (uninfested by allegedly-ex girlfriends) for doing it. Getting a job would work too. I realize that in the current economy the dragon option is probably easier, but... It comes down to this: you have to choose between having your family help you provide a safe environment for your son and your feelings for your ex-husband. Your husband who found a new girlfriend. I think the best way to move on is to focus on getting independent, job or school, letting your family help with your son while you get on your feet. Letting go is moment by moment. Moments that you spend studying or working are moments that you aren't hanging on to the past.
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It's time to move on.
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Welcome to DS. I'm sorry for your pain. We know that drill all too well and it is so sad to see someone going through this hurt. Here are the links that a fellow DS member, PGamble, put together. We all care. It's time roll up your sleeves and start taking those necessary steps before we MARCH MARCH MARCH. Do your part and we will walk beside you and you should seek counseling in addition to your daily strength. Godspeed.
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