Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Happens all the time... you aren't first and won't be the last.

Regardless of how he portrayed himself on line you can never be really sure who he was REALLY. But he made you FEEL good, about yourself, about relationships, about tomorrow. That's what you feel for....

Just remember believe 1/2 of what you see, 1/4 of what you read, and 1.8 of what you hear on the the internet... there's no regulation or rules and it's easy to lie behind a keyboard.

just because you didn't meet someone face to face, doesn't mean you haven't invested part of your heart and a lot of your time in getting to know them. I some times think it hurts more when people meet online and things seem to go south because the communication that was constant, is no longer there at all, leaving a deafening silence and many questions unanswered.

I wish you the best as you get over this.

Because his profile said he was not married really doesnt mean much, i'm sorry to say...being that he did not seek to meet you in person also says quite a bit. My gut tells me that he is likely married or seriously involved with someone, hence the sudden 'falling in love'.

The internet can be convenient and give us access to people we would otherwise never know in our 'real' life, but you really have to be cautious with your personal information (and feelings) until if/when you meet these people in person. And even then, you must be very careful...I am sorry for your hurt feelings and hope you feel better soon:)

im sorry. you can get hurt with someone online just as you can with someone in person.

i know without a doubt that you can fall for someone who you talk to online.

When/IF you meet in person, things could be very different. Its easy to put someone on a pedestal who you have never met. So many nuances that get lost in chat... He may be rude, or smell, or not know how to treat a lady in person. He obviously is lacking compassion on some level.. that surfaced when he "fell in love at first sight" and didn't take your feelings into consideration.

That doesn't take away from your sincere feelings from what you knew about him in the capacity that you had right now.

I am sorry you are hurting. We meet asses in RL and we meet them online. Neither one is a safe zone.

Don't be hard on yourself. Find solace in the fact that you were able to activate those feelings again. Thats a good thing.

I know it hurts. Much love for you.

HUGS!!!

People have different expectations in relationships. Some just want someone to chat with when they're lonely....and aren't looking for a love relationship.

A month is really a pretty short time. People can be much more supportive online, because, well, it's all Words....no actions.
And it's easy to TYPE 'foot rub', or here's a cup of coffee.

It was real to YOU and you are entitled to getting your feelings hurt in the situation... It's life, real or virtual... Best wishes and hugs...