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I found out my boyfriend cheated on me the first 4-6 months of our relationship over the computer, flirting with other girls and even goign as far as having "cyber sex." with a girl. And he manipulated me to do sexual things with him. We've been together over a year. Even before I found out he changed his way.He says he's sorry. He even cries at times. He even dropped all of his friends and deleted his myspace account. I know I don't really belong here but I thought people here could help me
We talk through it all the time. I go through episodes almost everyday, where I cry and not do anything but stare and he'll hold me ad tell me he loves me, and wont leave my side. And that's when we talk. He seems to really be sorry. But I just don't know. we're just starting to date again. I told him that I need time to get back the trust I had in him, and to do anything sexual. He said it was fine and he'd do it. But I'm afraid he might cheat again. Because we were not yet having sex when the cheating happened and I don't want him to do the same thing. (though he promised he wouldn't, he's broken that promise before) I don't know how to go about this whole thing. I don't know how I should act. How I should feel. I don't want to break up. I can't imagine being without him. We're together as much as possible. I have no friends. He's the only friend and person who cares for me I love. Posted on 11/03/09, 10:11 pm |
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I'm so sorry for your pain, Maleena. You may want to re-post this in the "general topics" category, as the "advice" category is often overlooked. There are many caring people here who, I am certain, will give you kind and sensitive advice. Best wishes. 
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Welcome to DS. I'm sorry for your pain. We know that drill all too well and it is so sad to see someone going through this hurt. Here are the links that a fellow DS member, PGamble, put together. We all care. It's time roll up your sleeves and start taking those necessary steps before we MARCH MARCH MARCH. Do your part and we will walk beside you and you should seek counseling in addition to your daily strength. Godspeed.
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Oh sweetie you're so young.
I think of myself at your age and wish that I had believed in myself more. I was so full of doubt, and I so wanted someone to just love me. I wish that I could give you a big load of confidence, and then I wouldn't have put up with the things that I had. Because NO Relationship is worth the cost of doubting yourself. He's cheated already, and you've only gone out a year. It will only get worse. Work on yourself. Get educated. I know it's hard. I'm in school at 44 years old...believe me, I know it's hard. But it's also SO worth it. Hugs. Sorry if this is rambling, I'm tired.
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I think it's great that you've reached out and come here for support. Taking it slow, talking etc. with your boyfriend are all good things. If you feel uncomfortable at all though, PLEASE listen to yourself! Don't let him pressure you. I know it may feel like he is the only person in your life right now, but soon i'm sure that will change. Big hugs!!!
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