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Help with my ex Girlfriend.
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This was posted in the discussion board... though it was better fit here.
Ok, so my Ex and I have been broke up for close to 5 1/2 months now. At first I did all the wrong things to try and get her back and all it did was just push her away more. She told me she was "talking" to someone else and I totally flipped out. I finally decided to man up and just give her the space she wanted and if it was meant to be than it would come back. Well its been a month or so now since she started talking to me/seeing me again. She text me one night just talking then said "I hate sleeping alone". I followed with the same response because it was true, we were together for over 3 years. So she decided that the days I have to go workout with her I could spend the night, which i couldn't do before when she was "talking" to that guy. We decided to start working out together which I didn't mind because I got to see her again, but kept on the front that I was moving on. Now I have been staying at least one to two nights a week at her apartment sleeping with her and having a great time. I have picked up on little things that she has said and her actions that have made me question the fact that she might want to try to get back together. One example is this Halloween she was telling me about the outfit she got to go to a party in. She told me it was revealing at all and all that jazz. I just mentioned that I noticed a lot of girls like the "slutty" outfits and questioned why she didn't have one. She told me " Well if I was single and wanting to hook up....... I mean I'm single........ well you know" and then just kept smiling at me. Another time she sat down and just went on about how I have no idea how much she appreciates me and the things I do for her. I paused and was waiting for an explanation but she just smiled and said that one wasn't needed. I feel myself falling in love with her all over again, and I want to see if this is just me or if she feels the same way. She knows i have been seeing another girl and I don't know if this is just her way to compete with her or if she is really wanting to get back together. She isn't seeing that guy anymore because he treated her like crap, I just don't want to put my guard down again. We flirt all the time on the phone and everything is great when we see each other. I just don't know weather to continue to give her space or if I should just ask her to talk and see what happens. Any incite to this would be great. I still have very strong feelings for her. Posted on 11/03/09, 03:11 pm |
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Why don't you just sit down and have an open and honest conversation with her. Tell her how you feel about her and how much fun you been having together and ask if she was ready to move to the next step. It's probably scary to wait for the answer but maybe she is waiting for you to make the next move. 
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Yea, I was thinking the same thing too. My Ex works at a store that my parents shop at every week, and 3 weeks now she has tracked them down and talked with them when they were there. My mom told me the one day she was talking with her my ex said that she knew that we would work out... she was just waiting. Now i don't know what that means and I'm taking what my mom said with a grain of salt. (she tends to add thing/tell things in her own way). Guess its time for me to swallow my pride and take the leap again.
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Not sure what to say brother other than...good luck!
Remember, "Fortune favors the bold" The worst that can happen is she shoots you down, you get hurt, and you lose the chick you have been seeing. So is all that worth the risk? It might be. I am not you. So again, good luck.
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Why did her and "the guy" split?
It sounds like you will and want to be with her regardless of her motives, reasons of the past with how she treated you and was with another guy. I guess a conversation would be a good idea to find out what is up, maybe if she make another innuendo, you can ask her out right or it could lead in to a talk later that night. Either way, you need to talk to her if you are not clear where this all stands. or, you can just go along with the ride and take the consequences or fruits in the end, come what may. best wishes.
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Okay maybe the others didn't pick up on this but I can't help to ask... Why are you "seeing" another girl if you already have feeling for this one??? Does this other girl know that you are "staying the night" at this girls house??? I would say you need to let theother girl go and let her know that you have feelings for someone else. Start a clean fresh relationship or at least the chance for one or things will blow up in your face more than you could possibly imagine.
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I picked up on he was seeing someone else, I just assumed that he was seeing her, cus his ex was with someone else. Now she is back and he is in a quandary of what to do.
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