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My wife and kids have been gone three months,I have only seen my kids twice in that time.I know after court I will get visits, but how do I deal with not seeing them every day?
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Well my situation, we have 50/50 split. But let me tell you the off weeks really suck. So, I did a couple things that you might try depending on ages for your children. First, I got them an email account and ask them to check it at least once a week - it helps with remimders and just letting them know you are thinking of them. Second, I got one a cell phone - my oldest is 9 so it was sort of a big deal He does forget it off and on but for the most part he has it handy so we talk at least once a day for the most part.
After the first couple months my kids did ask to see me during their dad's week so we all talked and agreed that I get them for dinner one night during his week - same night every week. The good thing there was that their father listened to what they wanted. Hope any of this helps. I still hate my non-boy weeks. 
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Cell phone is a good suggestion.Camera phone even better... have them send you a "picture a day".
Are they far away? Is that why you can't see them? You don't have a lot of information on your profile..... but we'll try to help.
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they need to know that you are there for them, even if you can't see them. Phone them everyday.
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Oh that would be so hard for me. I miss my daughter so much when she is at her dad's for her weekends. I got her a cell phone when this all started..She was 10, but I wanted someway to stay in contact without going through her father. I wish you the best.
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Welcome to DS. I'm sorry for your pain. We know that drill all too well and it is so sad to see someone going through this hurt. Here are the links that a fellow DS member, PGamble, put together. We all care. It's time roll up your sleeves and start taking those necessary steps before we MARCH MARCH MARCH. Do your part and we will walk beside you and you should seek counseling in addition to your daily strength. Godspeed.
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Thank all of you for the advice.I have tried the cell phone . I got one for my oldest son(he is 12) so they all could call . I got one call from that phone.My son said my wife broke the phone . She lets the kids call me once a week (sometimes)and I only get to talk to each for a few minutes.My wife is doing every thing she can to keep the kids away from me.She doesn't understand that the issues we have between us do not involve the kids.She is using the kids to try and hurt me.Yes it hurts,but who is being hurt more me or the kids??? I Have updated my profile a little & I am seeing counselors. Thanks again !
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Just keep calling or emailing, or trying to stay in touch as much as possible. Go to school functions if you can. Just stay in their lives.
Your wife might be being spiteful now, but your kids need to know you still care. My husband left early in the year and hardly ever calls our son, and then blames me that I'm trying to keep them apart. If husband calls and doesn't get a call back, he refuses to call back again. - Son won't call back because he wants his father to take the initiative to call and ask about him. I hate it. But I'm learning husband has a mental problem. So please don't walk out of their lives because you feel you are being sabotaged. write a journal for them - share it with them when you see them. Give them a journal to share with you. Anything so they know you care.
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We are not friendly exactly - but we are grown up. Early on we decided to both get webcam computers so that the kids can video conference if they miss the other parent.
It is really nice! If either of you is not grown up about the divorce - it won't work. Don't get me wrong - he completely and unexpectedly betrayed me and I felt sick about the divorce on many levels. But - I love my kids and he is a good dad.
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