Breakups & Divorce Support Group

What if you file? I think where I live if the respondent doesn't do their part with the divorce, they can just be ignored and the process can move forward. it will be slow, but it will move forward. If he fights the divorce, it can last a long fucking time. Ask debbirdo.

Oh and why can't you move out?

I'm curious as well - in most parts of the world, you don't need someone else's permission to leave them? Are you dependent on him for something which you cannot obtain (e.g. money, housing) which you could not obtain on your own ?

Yes, I think you may have to leave him if it is that bad.

Leave! I was almost killed by a drunk/addict husband. Our child saved my life! If you don't have anything....there are shelters and resources! NO reason is good if you stay.

If you want out then you shuld file. Also if your the one that files then you get to be the one that speaks in court first, and the other person has to defend. If you have a place to go then you should go.

i was in a very abusive voilent marriage for 5 years before i left , dont waste ur precious time with something u know wont work , you want more from life , you deserve more hun x

is he abusive? much easier to get him out if he is.

Genie, you didn't mention if you are getting any counseling or if you have attended any Alanon meetings. Does your state have the Baker act? Sounds like you need to take steps to move on yourself and not wait for him.

Sending you hugs and support....

Get legal counsel with the intent on abandoning your home....