Breakups & Divorce Support Group

I've been divorced 22 years --just some small advice: Pack up the things ASAP.
Get them out of your sight. Out of sight out of mind. This is one of the steps towards recovery, I believe. It is a set back to indulge in reminiscing. I would cry in the beginning when I saw things of the past so I got rid of a lot of the pictures and things as time went by. Little by little I got rid of the wedding pictures, now I only have the ones of me.

I hope this was somewhat helpful.

I started taking away pictures a couple of months after, probably 6 months..but I left some..when I hit the anger stage 3 months after, I completely removed everything that reminded me of him, deleted his email address...cut off contact and I haven't spoken nor communicated with him since...the anger helps a lot to give you the strength..everything will come in time. I don't plan in being in touch with him again, I guess I moved on and he initiated contact with me a week ago but all he got was a cold person..not because I want to hurt him---just felt indifference and find no sense in dealing with him again..it's too soon for you to tell, journey..just be prepared..it will be a rollercoaster ride..but always remember that though it's hard and painful..let yourself drown into the man you used to love..these are the last few moments wherein you'll mourn for the lost of the man who you use to build your world and dreams with...you'll find the strength, one way or the other--but it will come..it will surely come.

Hugs,
Soulmistress

2 days after i took all pictures we had bought together ,redecorated bedroom a week after moved all his stuff it hurts to much to look at them

I am in a similar timeframe as yours. I am like Juliet, already put away the framed pictures, took my wedding ring off - the mark is still there - even before he did. And he is the one who asked for the divorce... I take time to make up my mind on things, but once I do it, it's done.

But, what do you do with all the momentos-cards, pictures, etc? I have been separated or 2 years & just moved so while packing & unpacking I found a bunch of stuff and realized I should do SOMETHING with the stuff. Do I give it to my kids? Ask the ex if he wants anything? I have a really hard time throwing anything away.

I just left a 10 year relationship where I had to pack what I wanted to keep and decide what to leave him (HA-should have been nothing but I was trying to be nice & fair). God, there were so many things I couldn't bear to look at or to pack to bring with me.

I gave him back his ring, which I loved more than anything. Why keep it, it would have brought too much pain. I left him the bed and all the sheets, comforter etc - again I couldn't bear to have the memories. We traveled alot and had many, many momentos that I loved but in the end left 80% - again couldn't bear to be around them. All the pictures are packed up and will probably not be looked at again....unfortunately all the pictures of my son, who is now a Marine, have him in them....can't look at those either.

If I had to still be around all of that stuff I would really, really be worst off than I already am. I can't erase him from my mind yet, but leaving all those things out aren't very helpful.

Good luck and a big hug!

as soon as i could. my situation is different though. all pictures of him are in storage. i have to redo the photo albums and edit our videos.
do it when it feels right to you.
good luck!