Breakups & Divorce Support Group

So, why do you have a boyfriend who would chew you out for something like this?

Good question, Jo. I asked him the same thing and he chewed my ass for being online here for support, and told me to unplug my computer. Did not want to talk with me at all about how I am doing or feeling So I will. Nice guy. Or so I thought. VERY WRONG! Ironic that I met him here on DS and we have been friends and together for a long time. That said, the focus, of the conversation was on my daughter. How am I wrong for wanting to acknowledge the birthday of MY daughter? I do not have him anymore. I thought I did. I do not.

I don't think you are wrong. Anniversaries are very painful for me too. Especially my mom's birthday. I miss her every day. Even more on her birthday... big hugs.

You are not wrong in the way you feel. Anyone who isn't supportive of you needs to be out of your life. You deserve so much more. Huge hugs to you!!!!

YOU are not wrong for remembering your daughter! She was a part of you and it is your right to feel any way you want when it comes to that loss. If he loves you, he would be sympathetic and not empathetic. He is displaying controlling and is an selfish ass for not holding you through this. You can do better....you have suffered a huge loss and losing the shitty BF should be a cake walk. Own yourself!

Of course you are going to be sad and grieve today! There is nothing worse than losing a child. The BF, anyone who can be that kind of jerk, needs to go bye-bye. You deserve someone who loves and supports you, not someone who tries to control what you do and how you feel.

You don't owe anyone an apology. Today, is your day to grieve any way you need to.

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I could not even begin to understand your loss. It's my greatest fear. I have only a few left after the death of my mother, cancer, my husband leaving. All of those have come true.I am thankful this one has not.

There are no words. Please accept hugs.

If there is one thing I have learned, that kind of loss is yours and only yours. It sucks, but once I let go of expectations from others regarding it, well, I was able to let it be mine, unchanging it's importance, significance, pain.

They just don't get it. And they won't. Don't expect it and you will be better for it. and it will remain special, for you.

no you dont owe the universe an apology

I lost a child I never met, I think about her a lot, and somewhere in my heart I believe thats what love is. Honouring another soul, not forgetting, keeping her value alive by keeping the sweetness of connection alive even as she is gone.

You dont see elephants apologizing to the universe, or their shitty boyfriends!! But they go back to their dead and murmur over the bones as they caress them lovingly. But we all love elephants dont we? Too bad shitty boyfriends cant marvel at us like we marvel at those grieving magnificent creatures.

cuz we are


grieving magnificent creatures.








dammit

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. Also, I am so happy for the life of your daughter. She was given to you for seven years and that was a gift. She is now waiting for you and you will one day be with your little girl forever in Heaven. Anyone who does not see your little girl as a treasure from Heaven and acknowledge that lacks true love for others. You have to ask yourself, why would you want to be with someone who is focused on their own feelings of comfort and not on yours? Are you selling yourself short? Are you worth being loved? Is your daughter worth being cherished by a boyfriend of yours? If she is, then why are you picking someone who refuses to disrespect her so. Doesn't she deserve better than that. You are her mommy.