What is Brain Injury
Traumatic brain injury (TBI), traumatic injuries to the brain, also called intracranial injury, or simply head injury, occurs when a sudden trauma causes brain damage. TBI can resu...
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My husband was diagnosed with a mild TBI in May. It mainly affects his memory and problem solving, and his personality is much different. He is suppose to go to therapy once a week, but he hasn't been keeping up with that. He also has been drinking more than his "1 or 2 beers with dinner once in awhile". He claims he is fine and if he really needed the help, the doctor would be more "on top" of him getting there. I told him that that doctor has many patients and that we need to make sure the visits happen. He also says that he is this way and I have to deal with it now. It seems like he can't acknowledge something's wrong or even want to get help. I don't know what to do. Anytime I bring up the doctor or the injury, he gets angry, tells me he is clearly thinking, and yells at me. He won't even tell me what he is working on during his visits. I feel so helpless and left in the dark. He doesn't communicate with me and goes out and does his own thing without running it by me or asking if I want to do something with him. By the way, we just had our 1 year wedding anniversary on Sunday. Needless to say, this is not how I pictured our newlywed time together. Any advice on what to say or do would be great. Thank you!
Posted on 07/29/09, 01:07 am |
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Life after brain injury is not as you knew it, it is a new set of rules, of new beginnings and sadly maybe endings but before you get to that point you , you being the operative word have to network, fight and get the appropriate help. You need to know more than the doctors, sad but true so get reading. What is a neuro behavioural deficit? What is frontal lobe head injury? How do you fix it? Now go girl and get out there for help. Having a personalised behavioural modification plan may help. Different ways of posing a question can bring almost instant change, modifying your words according to deficits of your husband can be brilliant but it will take outside help. I worked the following out for my self."Did you remember to take your library books back?" Look out for the eruption and of course he had forgotten. "How did you get on when you took your library books back?" Then it would be something like oh I forgot I will go and do it now or I might push the boundaries and suggest he write it down, it all depended on which way the wind was blowing. Once on Epilim for mood disorder the need to drink diminshed. In all of this do not forget self, you matter too, stand tall and do not lose your own identitiy, advise offered to me once on this site and it has stood me in good stead. 
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