Bisexuality Support Group

if kara diogaurdi and paula abdul are BI i will be thrilled

This kind of crap makes me angry. These women can come out as "bi" and its such a big deal, such a good thing. What would happen if Brad Pitt, George Clooney and Kanye West came out as bi? I'm reasonably certain that they wouldn't be met with nearly as much acceptance.

Ladies, I'm happy that you have your role models and that your sexual orientation is so readily accepted. Me? I'll be thrilled when a bi man is met with the same enthusiasm.

I'm sorry that this post was so negative. I don't mean to be and I hope no one takes it personally. I just get kind of worked up because, bi men seem to be the least accepted of any "alternative" lifestyle.

LOL ^_^
well the thing is that they have to come out after they are famous and people know them for who they are. So by the time they come out people just see it as their sexuality instead of as who they are.

I disagree jlbowie. I really believe that men who are openly gay or bisexual are far less accepted than women. But, it could just be me.

Oh no no I didn't mean men I was referring to the women, and the reason why it is so accepted for them is because by the time they come out they are already icons. Therefore making them "cool". But when it comes to men I do agree you are right, I try so hard myself create my own opinion on Bisexual men but it is a lot harder when you don't see any famous ones out there. But maybe one day, it will just take one brave man, or maybe two and he'd better be super famous.

Well, once I get famous you'll know ;-) LOL. Seriously though, the only bi male icon I can think of is a fictional character on the show Torchwood. His name is Captain Jack Harkness. The actor, John Barrowman, is openly gay. I love him and I love that the character is bi.

Hey, who doesn't love Captain Jack? :)
Seriously, though, I think a great deal of the double-standard comes from the fact that we still have a macho culture. It's changing, gradually, but there's this sense that it's okay for women to "experiment", particularly since a lot of guys consider it a turn-on, but for men there's a belief that "experimentation" must either be a result of intoxication or they're entirely gay. The automatic assumption most people make is that for men there's no middle ground. I think straight men see bisexuality as a threat---perhaps even more so than gay men. They see someone who's attracted to both sexes and it makes them afraid they could be the same way.

This is probably why, for most men, it's easier to put up walls between being straight and being gay. The writer Kate Millet said, "Homosexuality was invented by a straight world dealing with its own bisexuality." That seems to sum it up nicely.

I agree with you Nice (as I almost always do!) I have found, though, that there are a lot of women out there who find 2 men together as much a turn on as men find 2 women to be. If more women were honest about this then I think that would be a step in the right direction. The inherent problem is that it continues to be socially unacceptable for men to be sexually involved with other men.

It wasn't always so. In fact, in Greek and Roman times, bisexuality and homosexuality were an accepted way of life. It was Socrates that first introduced the thought that sex should only be between men and women for the purposes of procreation. His reasons were because sex took energy away from brain functions and if we redirected that energy then we could achieve greater intelligence. Also, the rise of Christianity taught us that Sodomy is wrong, and that "man shall not lie with man and woman shall not lie with woman." There are several holes in both of the arguments I listed above. However, the religious stigma, in my opinion, is the more important one, but my religious views aren't important here.

I'm sorry this was so long. I'm just really passionate about the fact that I can't be accepted for who I am no matter what I do or who I talk to. I guess that's why I come here, because I can be accepted here, if nowhere else.

Your soo right I love seeing two men together. always have ^_^ but most people freak out when I choose to share that information with them

Being accepted is a really important thing. For most of my life I've repeated the mantra of "I am what I am and if other people don't like it that's their problem". And yet I've come to realize that being accepted is an important, if not necessary, part of life. That’s one of the reasons I came here. It’s great to be an individual, to be secure in yourself, but it can also be pretty lonely.