Bisexuality Support Group

why dont you tell us more about yourself so we can better understand your situation?

I am sometimes looking at my girl friends and how beautiful they are. Then one time I kissed one on the side of the lip. she is always saying things like she would leave her boyfriend for me and stuff and i dunno if she is just jokeing ..but I use to have a crush on her boyfriend before he was her boyfriend and he is one of my besties. =(

does it feel right when you experienced that with your friend? how did you feel about the idea of her being with you that way?

It felt strange. Almost the same way like it would be with a guy only different.
But I have had a hard time beliving that anyone would want to be with me after my past few relationships.

v.v im not sure if I was bi my dad would still love me.

well the thing with that is you can't help who you are..its not like picking out a pair of shoes (should i buy them or not) you either are or you arent and accepting that you are is the difficult process naturally..either those who love you accept it or they don't...but for me it wasn't actually a decsion that i could say yey or ney to it just was.. and they might have trouble accepting that you are but its something they will have to adjust to and if they love you they will...

Its ok to be confused; sometimes it brings about emotional and spiritual growth spurts. If your dad loves you, then he would still love you, just maybe have a hard time dealing with your decision. You can't help who you are or how others will react, but if you hide who you are it may affect you and all of your close relationships. If you prioritize loving yourself, there are people in the world who will love you for exactly who you are. Personally, I think sexuality is more of a continuum that each of us fall somewhere along. Most people have some bisexual thoughts but many have no real interest in pursuing one end or the other of it. I think I like looking at the beauty of women more than men, but I have almost exclusively been emotionally attracted to men in my life. Any situation like that with friends is difficult no matter the sexuality involved. Humans can be in loving relationships and still find themselves attracted to other people. That is fairly normal. But when it is a friend, you have to deal with a lot more internal conflicts: your own desires, curiosity and loyalty. It is never easy. Like most life situations, you have to weigh the risks and the benefits. It sounds like your recent relationships have really affected your self worth. Give you time to heal. Everyone has faults and blessings. If they were focusing on your percieved faults or making you feel bad about yourself it is a reflection of their own insecurity. Good luck.

im so scared of not fitting into the box.=/ I dunno if they didn't accept me where I would go or what I would do. I mean I have had lesband friends and my parents treated them the same but they are always saying things-especicially my mommy- racial towards gays and lesbands.

=/ they think it's okay for them to be together but they pick on them a bit. it's not like overly horrible or anything.

I see what your saying about it not so much being a choice you are who you are..

im still kind of confused but i think that maybe most of my confusion may only be because i am so afraid of what everyone else thinks. does that make any sense at all?

ok i agree with both of them you and would like to add that you shouldnt think of a past relationship gone bad as a fault of yours or him or anyone it is just that the pieces didnt fall perfectly into place enough for it to work out...also ,and i tell this to all my friends as well, dont think!...ask your parents trival questions about thier feelings toward bisexuality...they may be really understanding and also dont worry about wht anybody but you thinks ok it will help you become less scared im sure...i hope was of help and if you wana talk message me.

peace