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I think you should talk to her. She may not know how you feel. Perhaps youcan sort it out, perhaps not. Love and hugs, Md2

I would suggest honestly, politely, and bluntly tell her how you feel about it. Tell her your point of view and ask her what she thinks. See if you can come to an understanding and compromise. If giving time and talking doesn't help, then end it.

Hahahaha- oh sorry, Iw as just trying to imagine my partner telling me they are taking a vacation with an ex- or imagining getting away with it myself. No matter how much these two are "just friends" (and they may very well be) out of respect for you and your relationship they should not be vacationing alone together. You should be along, or they shouldn't go. The fact that they didn't even consult you or consider your feelings is not a good sign. I could be that their plans were so profoundly innocent that it didn't even occur to them, or they are pulling the wool over your eyes. Not knowing them, I can't tell you which it is. Your posting this tells me that no matter what, your instincts and feelings have been affected and communication is necessary. Good luck!

Depending on your committment and communication level with your g/f, everything you are saying is a huge red flag.

I am just now leaving a relationship of 12 years. Trust and honesty was the key we had both agreed on, in order to keep things real and together. We made promises early on and we're keeping them, even in the midst of this awful, disabling break up.

I am the type of person to allow my partner alot of freedom, to live her life, ride her motorcycle with her buddies, have fun without me when she needs it - because I do not believe we are attached at the hip - the very thought of that makes me ill.

But, as time went on, after her bout with cancer and after starting up a motorcycle group in the DFW area (the last 4 years), she was taking more freedom and in some ways was no longer including me in decisions we used to make as a couple. Her actions were proving all along that she was moving on. She isn't cheating.. and she loves me very much..but wants her freedom - and to experience the single life. We'll be good friends FOREVER.

But, down the road, if she was with someone else, and if she offered to comfort me on a weekend away from her current G/F,..I would instinctfully know that her current G/F is on the way out.

You'll need to gather up all your courage and hit this head on. You may not like what you hear,..and you may have to be honest and tell her that you are not going to allow this 'weekend'. The confrontation will tell you all you need to know.

Keep us posted. This is going to be hard. *hug