Bisexuality Support Group

A lot of Bi people tend to have leanings, like they want a realationship with one gender, but sex with another. So I think that would count as still being Bi.

Use men sexually?

There IS a whole spectrum! A doctor named Kinsey made a scale for sexuality that I think is really cool--you can find it online by googling Kinsey scale, and should be able to take a "test" which determines your number and thus how "gay" you are--but really he hypothesized that a person's sexuality is fluid and should be determined over the course of their life, not just by a couple relationships. Anyhoo, check it out! Might help. But, yeah, I'd say you're a little bi--just a little, but it still counts. And depending on how you related to men as a girl--your father or if you have brothers--you're going to have a harder or easier time relating to them as an adult. If you had a poor or no relationship with men growing up, it stands to reason that it would be hard to form intimate relationships with them when you're older (intimacy denoting trust, and maybe this is just a trust issue?) IDK, but it's a complicated question. I'm here if you need someone! Take care!

Thanks!

Yeah, I think you hit the nail on the head, homonculus -- bad dad relationship leads to trouble with relationships later in life. Darn it, I wish I could just be "over it" already. But I guess that never really happens. Once you heal, you may not have wounds, but you do have scars. Bleahhh, that's a depressing thought.

Sapphire- I do mean "use". The last fellow I was with was frankly my boytoy, which is the kind of relationship he was advertising for on a certain website -- the internet is great for finding exactly what you thought you wanted. Except, I don't seem to be gay enough for the lesbians; the only women I've been able to attract have been other bi women looking for a threesome with their husbands. But all the people I've really truly loved in my life-- not just been in love with, but really loved, you know? have been women, but they were not sexual relationships.

I think the Kinsey scale is WAY overly simplistic.
I'm not being harsh, I think it was groundbreaking for it's time, but, like any pioneer, they never get it right. It takes others to refine it.
here's my take:
There's a sexuality scale & a romantic one.
Sexually, I'm just a little to one side of absolutly bi, but romanticly, I'm only interested in women.
And it takes some of us years to get to where we know exactly where we stand. Be patient w/ yourself.

that's a good point, Mycolors, it's much more complex than just a simple number or a simple label. Every person is a unique person, and that includes their sexuality. I agree with that completely.

Mycolors, you're absolutely right, the Kinsey scale is overly simplistic, but Kinsey was also treating sexuality solely from a taxonomic perspective. With his scale a man who was attracted to other men but had only slept with women would be considered a 100% heterosexual. He didn't take things like attraction, romantic feelings, etc. into consideration. It was all about what a person had or hadn't actually done.

I think sexuality--not just bisexuality--is a spectrum, but even that is simplistic because it doesn't cover how complicated sexuality is.

Question: So if your primarily interest men romanticly, but you are interested in woman sexually and find them very attractive sexually(but never had a true experience with woman) would that be bi curious or bisexual?

For myself, I didn't really start considering myself bi until I'd tried it at least once.